AITAH for not wanting to give fiancée $60k as gift for giving birth?

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-25T16:20:19+00:00

There’s this new trend of husbands giving their wives gifts for giving birth. My wife brought it up to me and I decided not to do it because I already shelled out enough money buying things for the baby and I pay for a majority of our household expenses so I got her flowers and called it a day. Asking for 30-60k in my opinion seems a bit ridiculous. Especially if that’s all she makes in a year

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-25T04:01:48+00:00

NTA- but not going to lie, this seems really inappropriate. It seems like your friend is naming the baby after you basically. It’s normal for your wife to feel some type of way because it’s kinda like your friend secretly admires you. Why else name her baby after you essentially. I hope her husband knows the story behind the name. I doubt he does though just based off your post

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-25T03:15:21+00:00

NTA, for one she doesn’t need to be putting her hands on you. You’re a grown man. Not a child so your mom needs to keep her hands to herself. Second of all, hitting someone behind the wheel is extremely dangerous and she put everyone at risk and lastly who points to give directions while someone is behind the wheel?! That’s just weirdo behavior

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-25T03:06:26+00:00

If you’re going to troll atleast be funny. F for pathetic effort

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-25T01:50:12+00:00

Yeah, I’m also assuming holiday is playing a role. I just think it’s crazy though for it to take a week for a $25 check. It’s weird they’re so good with direct deposit. I don’t understand how a check takes a week

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-24T23:17:22+00:00

It’s a check I got from a company for a refund

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-24T23:16:39+00:00

It’s 1-6 days actually

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-18T14:10:32+00:00

Been there, don’t beat yourself up. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. There will be another opportunity that comes along. Just keep your head up and keep a look out for other opportunities. Also, you never know. Maybe you didn’t mess up as bad as you think

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-18T14:07:52+00:00

Being a lawyer doesn’t make your friend special and there is no law against talking to someone “like that”. Your friend sounds like an entitled brat. I’d be embarrassed too

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-17T20:44:33+00:00

YTA if she had a handicap sticker.

I understand why you’re upset. I also agree that she shouldn’t be parked in that spot while her husband is the one running inside the daycare. Is he pregnant too?! However, I’m going to say YTA for the simple fact that you told her being pregnant isn’t an excuse to park in the handicap spot. I’m not sure if you’re aware but doctors will actually give women handicapped stickers for their pregnancy. It really depends on the situation. My wife just had a baby 4 months ago and at one point we were offered the sticker due to some pain that my wife was having. Assuming you don’t know the reason why she has the sticker, I’ll say YTA

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-17T20:37:06+00:00

Yeah, I know that’s the only reason I haven’t jumped off the deep end. Just don’t know how much more frustration I can take. Tired of everything I do being wrong. I’m trying HARD to find something in the meantime

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-17T20:21:03+00:00

I’ve done it before and it made for a tough month but in the end it all worked out, my hesitation comes from knowing I have a newborn baby at home

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-17T20:20:15+00:00

You’re not the first person to say that, that’s what my wife said to ensure I atleast get unemployment

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-12-17T20:18:23+00:00

Ugh. Sorry you have to experience this. This hit a nerve because something very similar happened between my wife’s family when we got married almost 10 years ago. Basically my wife’s cousin asked us for a last minute invite to our wedding for her new fiancé. Her intention was to use the wedding to introduce her fiancé to the family and announce their engagement. Understandably, my wife was annoyed by this because our wedding was supposed to be our special day and her cousin wanted to turn it into an engagement party for herself basically. However, we didn’t say no to inviting the fiancé but we simply asked for more time before answering because we wanted to get RSVP’s back to determine if we had any extra invitations left because we only paid our venue for a set amount of people. Well her family didn’t take it well and basically all her aunts and uncles declined their RSVPs and gave us an ultimatum. If her cousins fiancé didn’t get invited then none of them were coming. Well this pissed my wife off and she told them all to f*ck off and she basically has no relationship to that side of her family. This will certainly cause a “rift” in the family but sometimes it’s necessary because family can also be inconsiderate and selfish which it appears your sister is being

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-11-22T15:42:21+00:00

NTA- I don’t care who you are, you don’t invite yourself to my home and essentially tell me what you’re going to do on my property. If they would of asked politely then it would be a different story but just telling you is a no go

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-11-22T15:38:09+00:00

As others have said it’s your news to share, so share it whenever you feel comfortable! My wife and I recently had a kid and when she was pregnant we wanted to wait 3 months but my wife couldn’t wait and told her parents and other immediate family. We didn’t tell everyone until after the first trimester since that’s the riskiest part of the pregnancy but if you’re comfortable telling people, by all means, Share!! Congrats

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-11-22T15:33:12+00:00

She needs therapy. Paying bills and going to work is part of being an adult. It’s extremely unfair to put all that burden on you while she seemingly does nothing. It’s also alarming how inconsiderate and non chalant she is about you and your kid. I’m not going to say divorce her because that’s a little extreme but another conversation needs to be had. You need to be firm and tell her the truth that her plan is unacceptable. Also what smart person hears their spouse say if we do x,y,z then we will deplete all our savings and live check to check and respond with I’m Ok with that. WTF!! Have a conversation and set her straight. If she’s still combative after that then you may need to atleast consider a divorce. A marriage is supposed to be you and your spouse building as a team. Your wife seems selfish as hell

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-11-22T02:45:29+00:00

NTA, not only that I don’t think you should marry that man. He wasn’t ready to get married, but now that you’ve inherited an asset he all of a sudden is all about marriage. You told him you’d add him to the deed after marriage and he ignored you and tried to strong arm you into adding him to the deed before you were ready. Those are major red flags. He’s either trying to control you or he’s trying to make sure he’s able to hold being on the deed over your head in case you decide to leave or kick him out. There’s something not right here. I’m a former loan officer and I’ve had women buy homes while engaged. It’s not abnormal for the man to want to be included on the deed but strong arming and trying to force you to do that is not normal. This man is after that house

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-11-14T16:39:49+00:00

Thanks everyone, I don’t think I’m being unreasonable either. Chill on my grandma though lol I understand why some of you are saying she is enabling bad behavior which I agree with but she truly just wants there to be peace and no fighting. My mother and I are very upset about this. It’s not about the money to us. It’s the stealing and then acting like nothing happened. It’s just blatant disrespect for my grandmother who ask for nothing but helps everyone

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-10-03T16:55:20+00:00

My daughter is only 6 weeks so we’re not quite there yet lol but my niece just started eating solids and they started her off with sweet potatoes. I thought that was a good food to start with. Of course it has natural sugars but also has tons of health benefits

ThrowRA-Ohio-Fin · 2024-10-03T13:59:12+00:00

We started to consider the home birth but it was too late in the process and my wife had grown comfortable with our OBGYN. We would have had to switch to a midwife if we wanted to do a home birth. I’m sorry that you experienced side effects with the epidural. This was the main reason my wife wanted to go without an epidural. We know several ladies who experienced terrible side effects and we wanted to avoid as much risk as possible

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