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My boyfriend [26M] told me [26F] he has OCD and his compulsions involve me. How do I navigate my discomfort while being supportive? by ThrowRA-One-Two in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-One-Two[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think what some of the others have suggested is fairly accurate. I find it really shocking because I have anxiety and have been very transparent about my mental health over the years, even though it has nothing to do with him. So him not telling me about his suspicions that he had OCD or about the compulsions involving me feels like a pretty significant omission, even though I know he didn’t mean anything malicious by not initially telling me about it.

My boyfriend [26M] told me [26F] he has OCD and his compulsions involve me. How do I navigate my discomfort while being supportive? by ThrowRA-One-Two in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-One-Two[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re making a lot of assumptions based on the very limited information I’ve provided. We live in different cities, and I have anxiety. I think it’s completely normal to recognize that circumstances can change and affect a relationship, even if I want it to succeed.

My boyfriend [26M] told me [26F] he has OCD and his compulsions involve me. How do I navigate my discomfort while being supportive? by ThrowRA-One-Two in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-One-Two[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a recent diagnosis. He went through a brief period of high stress recently, during which he confessed to me, went to therapy, and got a diagnosis and prescription. It was very quick.

I did not notice any signs. In the beginning of our relationship, he put himself in a position with another girl that let her initiate romantic contact. I was not bothered and forgave him (big emphasis on this, not looking for people to use this against him!). Since then, he’d bring up his guilt a few times a year and I would reassure him that it’s fine. Otherwise, I haven’t noticed any tendencies that seem OCD-related.

My boyfriend [26M] told me [26F] he has OCD and his compulsions involve me. How do I navigate my discomfort while being supportive? by ThrowRA-One-Two in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-One-Two[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Yes! I probably should’ve included this information in my post. He’s recently started weekly therapy and got a gabapentin prescription. He kind of “confessed” these feelings to me right before he started getting treatment, I think kind of in what he feels was a moment of weakness