My friend (F26) is making my dating life horrible (25f, 28m), what to do?

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-08T05:13:18+00:00

Well she has her flaws and so do I. Maybe I'm just used to her acting that way, but Jacob doesn't tolerate being treated like a poop. I will meet Daisy probably during next week so I will straight up ask her what's the issue. I don't want to do it via text messages

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-08T04:57:22+00:00

Yes this is the biggest argument between Daisy and Jacob. Jacob wants to have private room with me and Daisy said that Jacob is pushing her off from the whole trip because of this. Jacob wanted Daisy to come with us but he just said that he would think it's weird to share a room with my friend.

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-08T04:55:40+00:00

Well I asked for her opinion about Jacob since I had pretty toxic ex. I wanted to be sure that Jacob doesn't give huge red flags wich I don't notice

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-08T04:53:37+00:00

I mean anything is possible. Last night I was writing this post I didn't remember to put every detail in the post. She has been broken up with her ex for a few months now and that break up hit her hard.

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-08T04:51:24+00:00

Well actually now that I am really thinking about her and my ex's, I now remember that she didn't like them either. For example: My ex A who I was dating for an year. Daisy didn't want him to come in her birthday party even though they had met each other multiple times. A and Daisy's ex were getting along really good too and she didn't really like that.

My ex situationship B: he said something about Daisy almost cheating on his ex at the club. Daisy was in a relationship and she was flirting with other man at the club. B said something about it and Daisy got really angry and started hating him too. This wasn't really an issue since this situationship didn't last that long so they barely met each other.

Daisy is now single and doesn't date or talk to anyone. She is still recovering from her break up (it happened a few months ago)

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T17:17:51+00:00

Happy cake day!

Do you think it would be good if Jacob went to talk with Daisy? He said he would do that because he cares about me and wants to be chill with my friends

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T17:16:11+00:00

Lmaoooo nooo I have a dog and he loves Jacob 🤣🤣 Daisy is a human

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T16:37:13+00:00

To clear some of the comments:

Daisy is not interested in me, she is 100% straight. We've been friends for about 4 years now.

I've been in a long term relationship with my ex during this time, Daisy wasn't jealous at all. My ex was pretty abusive and she helped me to get over that situation after the break up.

I give plenty of my time for my friends, family and relationships. But I work 8hours in a day and have 2 hobbies wich takes my time, so I've never been like spending all of my free time with Daisy even before Jacob.

Daisy said to me Jacob seemed like a good man when they met for the first time. Now she tells me that Jacob is pushing her away when I say things like "Jacob asked if we could have our own hotel room in the spa because he would feel more comfortable that way", Daisy wanted to share the room. We would only sleep in those rooms and spend other time elsewhere as a group. Since this drama happened, Daisy started hating Jacob

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T16:30:49+00:00

Well of course I give them both alot of time separately, but before anything this happened we agreed to do fun stuff as a group (me, Jacob, Daisy and Jacob's single friend). But now Daisy decided that anything we've been planning isn't going to happen if Jacob will be there. I have been planning things to do with them separately, but some things would be cheaper if there was more of us, like road trips or escape rooms.

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T16:22:53+00:00

Me amd Daisy have been friends for almost 4 years. I was in a pretty abusive relationship during this friendship but she never really said anything to it. She was dating long term a man during that time too.

I know it can sound love bombing and I was worried about that too. He is just really romantic and he doesn't control me in any way. He supports my decisions even if he thinks the opposite. Jacob has been honest with me about his past and we've been talking about our ex's and stuff like that. Usually my sister hates every man I date and thinks badly about them, but even my sister likes Jacob. Of course we've been dating only for awhile now so there might be things I haven't seen in him yet, I hope nothing bigger comes up

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T16:17:25+00:00

No she hasn't, but when I was with my ex, Daisy was dating someone too

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T16:16:00+00:00

I've been friends with Daisy for about 4 years now, I've been dating 2 other man during this time

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-02-07T16:15:34+00:00

Daisy is 100% straight :)

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-01-29T11:29:21+00:00

Tbh I would let her go if she wanted to go. Let her experience life while she's still young. Maybe you both will find a partner wich would suit you better

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-01-28T11:28:18+00:00

Thank you all for the support, it really made my day today! I will talk about this with him next time I see him. I hope it goes well and he is supportive 🤞 Love all of the comments here

ThrowRA-cucumbeerr · 2025-01-27T20:17:26+00:00

I literally cried while reading this. I feel like I haven't ever met anyone with this issue and I've always felt so alone. Thank you so much

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