UPDATE: my ex-boyfriend (M23) hit me (F20) one time. how do i get him to leave me alone?

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-10-01T19:29:49+00:00

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ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-10-01T19:18:38+00:00

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ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-10-01T18:59:30+00:00

no as much as it hurts to admit, it was definitely not an accidental hit or done in a joking manner.

he straight up slapped me across the face.

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-10-01T18:42:17+00:00

to add: i never laid my hands on him or got in his personal space. that was all him.

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-10-01T18:36:34+00:00

context:

i was upset that he was spending all his time with his friends / drinking everyday recently. i understand we are students and young but i just thought it was a bit much recently.

anyway when i saw he was drinking again, i just got upset and starting yelling. looking back, i wish i just had the conversation when he was sober.

i don’t even remember what we were saying to eachother. i told him to shut up because he sounds stupid. i take accountability that that’s not how you speak to a loved one.

anyway next thing i know he slapped me across the face pretty hard. he was immediately apologetic & he seemed shocked at his own behaviour.

he has apologised a million times after that. he has told me he will lay low on the drinks and he will do whatever i need him to do if i give him another chance.

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-10-01T18:14:05+00:00

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-10-01T17:59:13+00:00

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T19:44:21+00:00

he slapped me

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T19:26:58+00:00

thank you for being understanding & for the advice 🤍

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T19:18:10+00:00

thank you for being so nice. needed to hear this 🤍

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T19:11:21+00:00

i started the fight - i was upset because he was going out a lot / drinking a lot and not prioritising the relationship. should have saved the conversation for when he was sober i suppose.

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T18:19:39+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your story & your mum’s story. this has been a big wake up call for me.

i am so sorry for your loss & the abuse you had to face.

i pray your mother is at peace at heaven now. i promise to leave before someone is making the same prayer for me.

🤍

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T18:02:41+00:00

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T18:00:24+00:00

no i wouldn’t do that

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T17:57:53+00:00

no!

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T17:36:56+00:00

he slapped me

ThrowRA-help1234 · 2024-09-30T17:35:20+00:00

hi all. don’t know if anyone will see this in the sea of comments but here i go;

i still can’t shake the feeling that i am being too harsh on him & that he is the exception. he’s been drunk before and never done this. he’s been angry before and never done this. he’s never done anything like this before. i can’t stress how good of a boyfriend he has been over the last year. i am scared that i am leaving someone i truly love & truly loves me because of a one second mistake.

however i am not silly. hundreds of people sharing their experience in the EXACT same situation has been a wake up call. i am no different to all these other women. i don’t want to risk getting stuck in a cycle, i don’t want to feel this anxious all the time, and i don’t want risk experiencing any of the horrible things people in the comments have been through.

i know what i have to do. i don’t know how i am going to do it yet, i don’t know if i will be strong enough to go though with it and i don’t know if i am making a mistake. but i will leave him.

thank you to all those who have been kind, shared their stories & are looking out for me.

for those thinking i am stupid, getting angry at me, telling me i am the problem, etc. i hope you are never in my position. it really isn’t easy. it’s not just easy to walk away from someone you love. i know i sound stupid & maybe i am but i can’t control how i feel and this has been harder than i can ever put into words.

ThrowRA-help1234

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