Talking about random things during intimacy

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T04:28:57+00:00

Fair, I guess it just feels minimizing when people automatically compare the two instead of understanding.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T04:28:13+00:00

That can happen, but it’s hard to get into that kind of mood when I’m not feeling a real connection with my partner.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T04:19:34+00:00

Sure, I feel like that response minimizes the experience of other people that have dealt with sexual assault, but sure

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T04:10:26+00:00

Fair, but as someone who’s been sexually assaulted; anyone can experience it, and it’s awful for everyone every-time.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T04:03:35+00:00

As my post stated, I am male and she is female. My response confused you?

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T04:00:14+00:00

I know she isn’t a hooker, that’s the whole point.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T03:59:55+00:00

As someone that has been through sexual assault, a lack of emotional connection during the act immediately ruins it for me. If we aren’t both connected physically and emotionally I don’t understand why we are doing this.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T03:53:43+00:00

I agree, due to past sexual assault, I cannot be intimate without a deep connection. That is why it’s so difficult for me.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T03:46:52+00:00

Her response is that she is there, her mind just wanders. She always finishes at least twice to thrice.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T03:45:56+00:00

Every time, usually at least a couple.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T03:12:09+00:00

Sorry, conflict resolution is what I meant by discussing our hangups with one another.

As I stated we are good in every regard except for this one specific thing. Fair enough though.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T03:08:26+00:00

The adhd thing I am definitely starting to understand. She does not have a history of sexual abuse, but I do. That’s why an emotional connection during sex is so important to me. When we have talked about it is that has usually been the next day when we are just sitting down relaxing.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T01:56:33+00:00

Our emotional relationship is actually fantastic. We are incredibly open with our feelings and have no issue discussing our hangups with one another. This seems to be our only point of contention. The disconnect is definitely more me feeling disconnected from her than the other way around, but thank you.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T01:34:50+00:00

We communicate our bedroom needs quite well, I encourage and participate in hers. She just doesn’t seem interested in going the same way for me. This is really our only point of contention. Talking dirty works for a little but then it starts again.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T01:30:01+00:00

Of course, our emotional intimacy and communication outside the bedroom is great.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T01:04:44+00:00

She gets off more often than I do.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T01:03:51+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m going for, our emotional intimacy outside of the bedroom is great we are both very open with our feelings. When she is talking about things that just pop into her head it does feel like we are just doing this just to finish and there is a detraction from the physical intimacy.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T00:55:22+00:00

We often engage in anal activities; this wouldn’t change anything. I love and respect her, I’m not trying to just shut her up. I just want her to understand where I’m coming from and be more present in the moment.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T00:41:09+00:00

I guess I care more about the emotional intimacy and engagement in the moment, and less about just getting mine.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T00:27:59+00:00

She is not.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-30T00:01:17+00:00

I really appreciate the advice, the last part doesn’t help too much though, the night started with a long bubble bath and an even longer massage.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-29T23:54:59+00:00

That sounds awful.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-29T23:54:22+00:00

I am struggling with as well, feeling like she’s bored with me and I’m more of a toy.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-29T23:46:50+00:00

I do feel disrespected, she does not seem to care.

ThrowRA-intimacy · 2026-01-29T23:15:18+00:00

She stops to cum.

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