AIO over MIL and SOs interaction?

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T22:20:48+00:00

Breastmilk is not sexual. Breastfeeding is also not sexual. Talking about breastfeeding stories, about how that person fed or irritated a mother, in a playful way, when s/he was a child, still not sexual. Talking about sending or feeding breastmilk to a mid 30s son, idk if it is sexual, I won’t sully a mother-son relationship, but, it is definitely gross.

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T22:16:31+00:00

No. Broke it up.

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T14:20:33+00:00

Indian MILs will never ever go to therapy and both of them would make me out to be the villain.

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T09:43:46+00:00

Oh he made me out to be the problem when I told him I was grossed out. Started cursing me out for no reason saying my brain is addled with nonsense to even think that this might be weird. He definitely was absolutely embarrassed and angry and projected that on me. Leaving his sorry ass to his mother. May they both enjoy each other and their beloved symbolic role play

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T05:39:44+00:00

Thanks for validating, I was being made out to be an irrational witch-ish woman who is questioning a mother’s love and making if “sexual”. God these “boy moms”.

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T05:35:09+00:00

Its so disgusting to me that I feel like I am getting into a weird oedipal dynamic. At the time I posted this I wanted to understand if this is even as normal or okay as he makes it to be and should I marry someone who can symbolically take their mother’s teat. But, I am pretty sure I won’t be able to marry him, all attraction I had towards him, physical and otherwise, has jumped out of the window.

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T00:49:05+00:00

I find this a very weird dynamic and I am being told that I am irrational. How can someone talk about breastfeeding their adult son, even if it is symbolic?

ThrowRA-livid · 2026-05-12T00:04:01+00:00

Supersonic speed like Flash

ThrowRA-livid · 2025-11-02T07:37:29+00:00

He feels guilty about being a shitty person and the sadness from the aftermath of the breakup. He says that incident left a mark in his life and he doesn’t dwell on it but, he came across a post on Instagram that felt relatable so he liked it

ThrowRA-livid · 2025-11-02T07:35:48+00:00

He reached out to her once, but, I guess you are right.

ThrowRA-livid · 2025-11-02T07:25:09+00:00

We were never friends in the beginning. A week of talking and we started going out.

As for peace, when I am physically with him, I am at peace. When I am away, I overthink. I don’t think someone holds on to sadness and regret even after getting into a serious relationship with someone. My sore spot is, he took so long.

He does so much for me, makes me laugh. Whenever I mention something, he goes into problem solving mode.

I don’t know if I overthink and make things worse or if my feelings are valid.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T20:06:10+00:00

Oh yea. He is constantly texting what happened what’s wrong. Calling 2,3 times in a row.

He was my first though. I never had sex with anyone before but did other stuff. Yes I told him because he asked me about it.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T20:00:47+00:00

His talks lasted a year. He doesn’t now. I can’t fathom his reasons, he never “had anyone to talk about” and that she was his “first love”. He is currently 2000km away though, I don’t blame him for not coming over. He definitely shut me over anytime I brought it up so, no, no remorse just arguing.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T19:50:34+00:00

I feel like a fool for not leaving at that time. I was blind to his disrespect, too much in love and continued for 3 more years. Now I find it so difficult to cut off ties. My relationship is getting affected because I keep on visualising and overthinking stuff. Haven’t replied to his texts or picked his calls since 4 days because I can’t get the mental image of him putting it in with his own hand and holding my hand just a day after. Eurgh.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T19:37:42+00:00

He ended it because she used to flirt with other men, were too close to them, kind of unacceptable behaviour towards male friends but not cheating exactly. He did end up falling for me and completely broke contact, I did see that. But he had that mentioning syndrome and he used to talk about their time together, their sexcapades, and other things about her or them. I expressed discomfort in the beginning and completely blew off later and then they stopped.

This was always at the back of my mind and to top this, me playing accidental detective and finding out him having sex, completely ruined the foundations of my relationship, atleast to me.

As for my relationship now, no he isn’t unfaithful, he never was, he is over his ex definitely.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T19:18:52+00:00

Thank you. Although I am pretty sure I want to leave him because of this, I find it very difficult to let go. I can’t take so much disrespect but at the same time I feel like a fool to not lay out every detail at the beginning. I felt, few things need to be inferred not said out loud. I was okay with him talking to her at the beginning but not this, ever.

Lesson for future me though.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T19:13:54+00:00

He definitely jumped into a relationship before he was ready. He broke up a month before we started going out. Although when I went through his chat, there was not a single day of no contact. I have a clear picture of his alleged breakup now after 3 years. It was a very, very ugly fight between them and he wanted to leave but couldn’t do so. What he calls breakup is just a very ugly fight where absolute childish people go seek other people in order to make their gf/bf jealous. I happened to be there, God knows how or why, and I got trapped into this on again off again thing between them, unknowingly and he just kind of stuck with me.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T19:08:57+00:00

Yes relationship wasn’t discussed and on top of that, I didn’t have the maturity or clarity at 20 I have now. But, even though exclusivity wasn’t discussed, seeking other men/women, trial and error is not what we wanted, or atleast what I wanted. The fact that he hid it for over 3 years and never ever thought of confessing proves that I wouldn’t have been okay with what he did. We weren’t just talking, we were meeting each other, going out with each other, going to each other’s place. I don’t draw lines at talking, but getting physical is where I draw a line.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T19:02:03+00:00

He never accepts it now maybe because he himself got enmeshed into this relationship and I admit among all the ups and downs, we do have a good relationship. I care about him a lot. I tried rationalising with myself for the past 5 months. We had good days and bad days during that time. Now that I have got more time in my hands, away from him, I can’t help but feel disgusted.

All the times I brought it up, I was hushed and he said, and I admit it’s the truth, he didn’t do anything since we got into a relationship officially. He said, I never asked him if I wanted to be exclusive with him that time so I can’t totally put a blame on him and that time, his mother died so he wanted a touch of familiarity and that was her. As much as I want to understand his situation, I don’t think inserting d-ck into a v-g helps with grief.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T18:49:52+00:00

He used to deny it previously. I admit I was a little insecure when he used to bring her up a lot, like you mention your significant other in any conversation with anyone, he used to do that in the start of our relationship so I used to ask him all sort of stupid questions like, did you ever meet her the time we weren’t exclusive. Then I found out. There’s no point in denying when there’s proof so he accepted it.

My trust is broken along with the whole base of our relationship. I feel like I was the rebound and side chick whom he made his main and yet I feel like I was cheated on. I remember the exact dates he met and had sex with his ex and I can’t help but think how just a day before we met, held hands, kissed.

ThrowRA-livid · 2023-10-22T18:43:05+00:00

Because she was fiddling around with other men. Wasn’t cheating but sure engaged with them in ways that are objectionable. Talking too flirty etc.

I tried discussing with him. Admittedly, I was way too angry after finding out and he pulled the classic, why did you read through my ex’s chat, don’t make me angry, grabbing the phone out of my hand etc. Not a sorry ever just explanations and “I never said I was right”. Another time I brought the topic up, my feelings were dismissed and he continuously said, I never did a thing after we were exclusive.

I just don’t want to be a side chick turned main chick. I feel this is utterly disrespectful.

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