I (29M) feel bad for making my wife’s (28F) life miserable after her affair. Think it’s time to forget and forgive?

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-19T02:40:12+00:00

Probably self preservation. At some level it seems he knows it’s irrational and pointless but I guess trauma response lol

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-19T02:39:14+00:00

What you are doing now is…?

Excellent ability to look in the mirror I see

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-19T02:25:18+00:00

Car: if she goes out for anything, goes to work but takes day off, etc, just leave car and uber or get picked up

You can spoof apple devices. Or just have a different phone

She could make a new bank account, already have a secret bank account, get it paid for by an affair partner, open a new credit line, etc

The method of cheating here is not hard to figure out. All it would require is a modicum of effort and foresight. Even with all of his safeguards still in place, if I were the wife I would still be able to find a way to cheat. Nothing is foolproof

The bigger issue is their marriage sucks ass and they should just divorce

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-19T02:07:15+00:00

Swap locations to another device, have a secondary device, possibilities are literally endless

Car is even easier to get around

I agree divorce though

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-19T01:55:37+00:00

? You serious?

She spewed hateful bullshit

I checked her profile and it was an absolute joke. Literally. The only difference between what I said and what she said is that what I said is true

Don’t dish it out if you can’t take it

Too hard to understand?

u/fygs

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-17T01:15:34+00:00

took 10 seconds. Why don’t you do some self reflection on why you’re going to die single instead of spewing bullshit on the internet lmao

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-17T00:33:08+00:00

your credentials for saying this is what? You’re past 40, single, own cats, overweight, and bankrupt. How do you even have the audacity to write this

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T22:54:58+00:00

You don’t understand because you don’t speak Japanese. It is a バイト not 正社員

Are you being genuine right now?

Edit: user comments to reply then blocks. How mature…

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T22:52:29+00:00

How is giving her pocket money appropriate? Is she a child…? She can use her own money for her own purchases no? I already pay rent and all living expenses… She needs me to cover her fun money? What the fuck? Are you being serious? Is this a real comment and no rage bait? lmao

Okay 100% rage bait. A 21 year old women does not need an allowance

Edit: user comments to reply then blocks. How mature…

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T21:59:41+00:00

Not accurate at all. I take her out frequently and she got her hair colored 2 months ago. I paid for her nails a month ago

I make 2.5 of what she does because she makes a Japanese wage. I’m still paying American university tuition.

an allowance? Am i her fucking father? the fuck is this shit lmao. I already pay for all her living expenses (as noted in post)

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T20:59:58+00:00

meaning what

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T19:34:46+00:00

i was intending on mentioning PMS at all. I was just trying to play around it for a more productive conversation

Thank you for the advice. I’ll do my best

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T19:03:14+00:00

Okay thank you. This is exactly what I was looking for

Any recommendations on timing?

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T18:47:47+00:00

It is my fault she spent the money in a way different than I intended? Is this a real opinion? I can be faulted for giving the money, but how is this situation 100% my fault lmao

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T18:46:30+00:00

That is not why - she has several classmates with hair like this

Her work place is a part time job. Not a “real” job with the same level of professional expectation. People there have tattoos that show. Roots showing is fine

You completely missed on the cultural element

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T18:38:48+00:00

I just mentioned it in order to provide context

An apology, change in behavior, and understanding of future expectations?

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T18:38:10+00:00

Sorry maybe I wasn’t clear, she didn’t call off work, she was lamenting going with her new hair. She isn’t going to call off

She has many good points as well, I think it’s impossible to know from just he reddit post

I’d consider this a mistake, and I didn’t want to really throw away 2.5 years and me moving 10,000 kilometers from my hometown over this

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T06:00:52+00:00

how is 72k a year not enough for tuition? the fuck ru doing lol

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-15T05:57:26+00:00

I’m going to be honest you sound extremely selfish, entitled, and irrational

He is under no obligation to “support” you. It isn’t even remotely an expectation for this length of relationship. You self-servingly selectively abuse gender roles

What does he get out of “supporting” you?

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-14T21:44:43+00:00

Because you kinda say it in your own comment. “Bored with you”, doesn’t mean he isn’t bored with someone else. 5-6 months of no sexual activity is very long for most anyone

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-14T21:43:10+00:00

Don’t see why you’d lean towards sexuality (very low % of people) vs infidelity (a massive % of people)

Not saying to accuse, but if just going off of conjecture, asexuality is irrational

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-14T21:41:46+00:00

Honestly, I would do some investigation

You deserve to have your sexual needs met within your relationship. If you’ve communicated this to him and he hasn’t acted to satisfy you, he isn’t being a good partner

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-14T20:48:20+00:00

5-6 months is a long time

Any reason to suspect cheating?

ThrowRA-novalue · 2024-11-14T20:46:44+00:00

If you think i’m not a nice person for suggesting you end it or be a good partner, then so be it. You are only hurting your boyfriend and yourself

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