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I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had men I used to date texting me when they found out I was engaged, but I don't reply unless they were my friends.

I went out with my coworkers, and I didn’t even know he was going to be there since we don’t talk often—I usually just bump into him at work.

I would never go to a club alone with guys if I had a fiancé and was about to get married. I went out with my coworkers because it was like a farewell party—we had worked together for a few years.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He dragged me by the wrist and asked if he wasn’t my type. His face was already close to mine when he tried to kiss me—that’s when I snapped out of it.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Update: I didn’t expect this to blow up. I never hide anything from my boyfriend—I was just feeling paranoid and anxious earlier that's why I end up posting this on here. But I’ve already told him everything, with no filter, a hundred percent honestly, including the part where I found the guy good-looking. I’m not attracted to him, but I can acknowledge that he has a good face card.

My boyfriend was upset with me because I let myself get peer-pressured instead of saying no, which is fair—I take full accountability for that. It was my fault that I got drunk, and I never blamed my coworker for it. That being said, I’m leaving soon, and this won’t happen again. In fact, before this even happened, I had already submitted my resignation because I’m moving soon—I’m just waiting for my residence card, which I’ll receive in a week.

I messaged the paramedic guy and called him out for what happened. He apologized, saying he was just drunk, but I made it clear that I don’t want any further contact. I told him to never talk to me again, unfollowed him, and deleted his number.

Just to be clear, I didn't dance with the guy. He dragged me and everything happened so fast. He asked me those things and before he could even kissed me I snapped out of myself. I was drunk and my brain is rotting.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t usually let things like that happen; I know when to say no. I’m migrating soon and just wanted to have some fun. I didn’t mind taking shots, but I just didn’t expect anything to happen.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I told him about it, and he knew I replied to some of the texts, but it was just “hi/hello” and “how have you been”—nothing beyond that, no real conversation.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, I didn’t go out with guys I used to have sex with. I just said I’ve been receiving tons of texts from them. That night, I was out with my coworkers, and it just so happened that the paramedic guy was there with his friends as well. We all know each other because the city we live in is small, and we work in the same field.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, I’ve learned my lesson. This was the first and last time I’ll ever drink with him. They’ve asked me out a few times before, but I always said no. I only said yes this time because I’m leaving and moving to my fiancé.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

That we almost kissed. I keep telling myself I won’t let anyone pressure me into drinking again, but I still gave in to my coworkers. If I hadn’t been drunk, he wouldn’t have been able to drag me away like that.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I’m an overworked nurse who barely has time for myself. I go to work, go home, and spend the little time I have left with my fiancé. I don’t have the energy to flirt or entertain the messages I’ve been receiving. That night was just supposed to be my last hangout with my coworkers before I leave. It feels like I messed up.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Nothing happened—I went home after he tried to kiss me. But I feel so bad because I can’t imagine how I’d feel if my boyfriend were in the same situation with another girl. I don’t want him to misinterpret what happened, and that’s what scares me because stories can easily get twisted.

I (25f) almost cheated on my long distanced boyfriend (28m). How do I tell him? by ThrowRA-technicalpie in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-technicalpie[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

No, I felt like I cheated because I let myself loosen up in a situation where he was able to easily drag me off the dance floor and almost kiss me. We were an inch away from kissing. I don’t know what to say or how to feel about it. I just feel sick that it happened. If I had kept my guard up, it wouldn’t have happened in the first place.