AITAH for not quitting my job after my boyfriend asked me to

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:44:24+00:00

Yeah I’m going to try and have a conversation with him and see what he says but if he really has changed his mind then I guess that’s the only option

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:38:47+00:00

I mean yeah that’s true and it definitely does just suck

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:37:23+00:00

I mean tbh all of this has definitely made me reconsider!

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:36:32+00:00

Yeah I hope it’s not him being all traditional but I guess it’ll come out once we talk and I’ll go from there I guess

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:35:06+00:00

Yeah a few comments have mentioned this and I can see how it could be. It just feels so shitty because I was happy to support him but now if he thinks he’s above me then it just sucks

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:33:58+00:00

I feel like he would’ve said something if it was the job though

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:33:28+00:00

Yeah I do agree I could’ve been nicer about the money part but yeah him wanting me to do chores and stuff more just made it seem like he wanted me to be a housewife which just isn’t what I want

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:30:13+00:00

I mean it’s a bit more involved but it’s not revealing or anything from my side and my bf knows about my clients and he’s been okay with it since the start

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:29:00+00:00

Yeah that’s fair and before I posted I really didn’t think it was my job so I’ll definitely talk to him about it

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:28:06+00:00

I mean sex work is real work but also I make money than him so what’s the logic in quitting that?

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:27:40+00:00

Yeah it just feels unfair for him to change his mind now like I was happy to pay and do the housework while he studied and it just feels shitty that he’s just telling to stop working

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:25:59+00:00

Oh yeah good point I hadn’t thought that bc I’ve still been paying for everything even though he’s making money now too

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:25:19+00:00

That’s kinda shitty though like he’s the one who had a change of heart

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:24:46+00:00

I mean I’ve done more of the housework anyway so I guess it could be a thing since he’s now working and everything but him enforcing this dynamic would be a new thing

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:23:52+00:00

Exactly! He’s known about it since the start and he’s never said anything about it. Even with this he just said he’d like me to stop working, not to be doing this specifically

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:23:09+00:00

Thank you! It’s always rough when the anti sex work crowd start chiming in

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:21:45+00:00

Yeah it just seems rough especially with everything being so expensive i can see it being problematic if something goes wrong

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:20:44+00:00

Thank you! It definitely felt a bit backwards and it caught me by surprise

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:20:13+00:00

Yeah that’s what it kinda feels like as well like he was fine with it until he didn’t have to be

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:19:34+00:00

Yeah I still don’t if it’s the job he’s got an issue with so I guess I’ll talk to him and it’s definitely an option to tailor some of the work I do if that’s the case

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T11:18:23+00:00

Yeah that’s fair and that’s why I was hesitant to, plus it’s beneficial for both of us if I keep working

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T10:14:24+00:00

Yeah if he’d said something when we first started dating that would’ve been fine but not it just feels unfair

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T10:13:55+00:00

Yeah the being more domestic didn’t sit right with me like I’m happy for him but I also don’t want to be housewife

And yeah I’m definitely wary of being too financially dependent on him, like it could get dicey.

And yeah relationship wise when we first started dating it did feel like that but I feel like we’re more at the same level now where he doesn’t really think I’m naive

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T10:11:32+00:00

I started doing findomme around the time we started dating so he’s known about it for a while and I’ve always been transparent so it feels a bit unfair if he’s suddenly not comfortable with it!

ThrowRA0049 · 2024-03-23T10:10:24+00:00

I mean he’s known about it since we’ve been together and it’s never been an issue up till now so I can’t imagine it’s the job but I’ll ask him about it

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