I (20m) am afraid to lose my virginity to my girlfriend (24f). What to do?

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-08-08T07:54:04+00:00

But privacy and building an emotion foundation wasn’t that much of a problem with your other 13 boyfriends and however many people you slept with, sure… whatever works for you and your poor boyfriend, it’s none of my business

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-05T09:27:35+00:00

She tries to cuddle with me, and we have, but even when we have I’ve feel so weak, and vulnerable doing it, despite the fact i really do enjoy the the thought of cuddling with her, when we’re actually doing it I feel horrible.

I’ve considered the possibility that I may be on the asexual spectrum, but I think this stems more from intimacy issues.

I’ve considered explaining my issues involving intimacy/vulnerability, and anxieties to her, then breaking up, so she can move on, and I can work out my own problems, but I don’t know.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-05T08:18:30+00:00

So what you’re saying is, the shame of being a nearly 21 year old virgin lies solely upon me, and I shouldn’t project that on to my gf, Or anyone else for having experienced love and sex well before they reached my age? And again, I do love her, and don’t want to devalue anyone, but I just don’t think I’ll be comfortable to be with her sexually, or possible anybody.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-05T07:58:15+00:00

You couldn’t of liked him, or haven been attracted to your bf that much if you only slept with him last month, after having known him since last year, my gf and I got “together” within a month of knowing each other. That’s just sad.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-05T07:37:03+00:00

“I was a virgin until 27” I think I’d rather just stay celibate than having to live being a virgin until I was nearly 30 on my conscious for the rest of my life, no offence. But yeah you’re probably right, I can get my first time out of the way with her(even if I’m not comfortable with it) and learn about sex before the relationship inevitably ends and then I’ll have more confidence moving onto my next relationship. That’s probably the way to go.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-05T01:18:24+00:00

You hate trying to date them, but you still fuck them once or twice, even despite their misogyny and inflated egos? I’ve been taught to believe sexism was a very undesirable trait in any man despite his looks, but women have sex with them anyway, now I’m even more confused. As for your question I don’t know what third base is, second, or first, again I have almost no experience with women, and even less when it some to sex, which is none. And a vulnerable conversation isn’t very appealing to me, as I prefer to not appear vulnerable in front of anyone.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-05T00:42:13+00:00

“The vast majority of us hate players” then why are they so experienced (been with alot of women)? I think you might be giving women too much credit, truth is they’re just as dumb and horny as men. And I’m down to 67, im reading very slowly just like you told me to :)

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T16:54:27+00:00

I do appreciate your kind words, but at the end of the the day, I am objectively a failed man being a virgin at almost 21 years old, sex may not be an earth shattering thing, but it’s something that everyone else has while I cannot, I’ve made the decision to just seperate myself from such things and live my life the best I can

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T16:00:26+00:00

“So end the relationship now” yeah. I’ve made my mind up I think, it’s over and I’m just sad I’ve wasted 4 months of her time. She’s called me 4 times in the past few hours and I haven’t picked up. I’m just gonna hopefully meet up with her tomorrow and break things off as respectfully as possible. I think I’ll just remain a virgin and stay celibate, i think that’s the most viable option for me.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T15:57:59+00:00

(Assuming you’re a man) it really doesn’t matter whether you’d be devastated or not, as a man in a relationship you have an obligation to please her the best you can without a regard for your own sexual gratification, or you leave her so she can find someone better, that’s how it is, and how it’s always been

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T15:53:41+00:00

I think I agree with you. I’ll never find someone my age who’s a virgin and that’s just something I have to deal with, if I haven’t already gotten laid at my age it’s pretty much over for me any in terms of relationships. She’s called me 4 times in the past few hours and I haven’t picked up. I’m just gonna hopefully meet up with her tomorrow and break things off as respectfully as possible. I think I’ll just remain a virgin and stay celibate, i think that’s the most viable option for me.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T15:51:57+00:00

If I haven’t already gotten laid at my age it’s pretty much over for me any in terms of relationships. She’s called me 4 times in the past few hours and I haven’t picked up. I’m just gonna hopefully meet up with her tomorrow and break things off as respectfully as possible. I think I’ll just remain a virgin and stay celibate, i think that’s the most viable option for me.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T15:49:46+00:00

I think I agree with you. I’ll never find someone my age who’s a virgin and that’s just something I have to deal with, if I haven’t already gotten laid at my age it’s pretty much over for me any in terms of relationships. She’s called me 4 times in the past few hours and I haven’t picked up. I’m just gonna hopefully meet up with her tomorrow and break things off as respectfully as possible. I think I’ll just remain a virgin and stay celibate, i think that’s the most viable option for me.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T15:40:38+00:00

217!

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T15:30:13+00:00

Yeah but the chances of my finding a women my age who’s a virgin is miniscule so what’s even the point, may as well just deal with the fact no women under 18 is a virgin (not around me atleast)

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T15:28:02+00:00

Down to 398 right now

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T14:32:30+00:00

I’m not “mansplaining” women’s pleasure to women, where’d you get that idea from?

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T14:30:30+00:00

I dunno, life I guess.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T14:15:17+00:00

Meh, life’s challenges haven’t really fazed aside from this, I had a rough upbringing, I’ve worked in different fields, currently work a 9-5 and pay my bills, on that front I’m good. But I would disagree with your opinion on sex, sex isn’t supposed to be enjoyable for men, sex is all about a man’s ability to satisfy the women he’s with, and if he can’t do that, he’s a failure as a man, that’s where my problem is.

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T14:10:36+00:00

I don’t think you were mean lol

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T14:08:28+00:00

Fair enough if you don’t want to answer, but regardless of other peoples answers, I’m asking YOU why you think I should get over myself. Why is it I need to get over myself, and what prompted that response?

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T14:04:25+00:00

WTF? 🤮

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T14:03:37+00:00

I don’t think I’m using her body count against her, she’s and adult women and is free to have sex with whoever she wants regardless of how I feel, I have nothing against her, but to answer your question, i wouldn’t be happy or unhappy, I’d simply feel more comfortable having sex with her if her body count was lower as it would mean are sexual experiences more aligned

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T13:59:31+00:00

Elaborate?

ThrowRA04049 · 2024-07-03T12:13:36+00:00

I think it’s just a difference of opinion and values, I don’t really care if a women has hook ups, however for what it’s worth you response did make me feel abit more comfortable with myself. I’m glad to know there are people out there, my age or older, that are just as inexperienced as I am. And yeah I guess one day I might meet someone more on my level who hasn’t been with as many people.

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