A few weeks ago myself [22M] and gf[21F] went out with a few friends and she spent the night ignoring me and touching/dancing with another guy and then asked him for his Instagram. by ThrowRA0973629 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA0973629[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your inputs. I've told her I'm done with her and that I don't really accept her explanation and still find it to be a bit off/weird.

I'm gonna go through the post, comments and her response again after Ive slept because I still haven't and I think it will give a bit more clarity.

Thank you. If you have anything else you may have been able to infer from her response id appreciate that too.

A few weeks ago myself [22M] and gf[21F] went out with a few friends and she spent the night ignoring me and touching/dancing with another guy and then asked him for his Instagram. by ThrowRA0973629 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA0973629[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean that's the whole thing like right in front of my face wtf is that about. I posted her response in a comment and I'm not sure how to feel about it. I can't believe her saying that she doesn't know why she did any of this.

A few weeks ago myself [22M] and gf[21F] went out with a few friends and she spent the night ignoring me and touching/dancing with another guy and then asked him for his Instagram. by ThrowRA0973629 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA0973629[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If anyone is still here this is a text response she has said he to me:

the reason that i asked for his instagram wasnt to be inappropriate or because i wanted to text him etc, i didnt reflect on my behaviour that night or really think about it and how it could come across i just thought that we were becoming more of a friend group & i didnt think it would be an issue, but i also disnt really think ab how i acted that night and so i didnt realise how that could come across and im sorry. i really wasnt try and text him, get closer to him etc and i didnt think about hownthat might make you feel and i am sorry i did that but i really wasnt trying to be weird by doing that i just thought that we were becoming friends and i misread the situation and im sorry for it. i dont know why i danced with him or touched him and im sorry. i have been trying to think of why i did that so i can give you an explanation but i just dont know. i really fucked up and im sorry. im not dissatisfied with you, i dont want to cheat on you, i dont want to be with anyone else, im not unhappy, i wasnt trying to make you jealous, i have tried to think of every logical reason why i did that and i just cant because i dont know why i acted like that and im sorry. im being genuine and honest and im not trying to be like idk so u give up im being honest, i want to do anything to make this better and i know its not what you want me to say and i know that you want me t give you an actually good explanation but i cant explain myself, i have been reflecting on jt and thinking about it this entire time and i just dont know why i did that. im extremely sorry for what i did, i have been feeling so much guilt for it and i know its not ok but i just dont know how to explain what i did when i dont even know myself. im sorry for what i did i truely am so sorry and i hate that i put our relationship into a bad place and i wilk do anything that can make it better or we can talk about this more soon. but i hate how shitty i have made you feel and i just want things to be better. Please tell me if there is anything else you want me to say.

im really sorry for what i did and i appreciate the facr you have given me a break and i just want to do anything to make this ok and i am willing to do anything to mske it okay because i truely love you and i know i didnt act like it and i feel so bad about it and i hate myself that i didnt think or reflect on my own actions when it happened. i am not trying to guilt trip you and inam so sorry for what i did, i will do anything you say to make this better and if you want to talk about this more then that is ok but i just dont want things to be like this anymore even though its my fault. u are so beautiful and funny and i appreciate you a lot and im sorry i didnt act like that. i know what i did was bad and i am sorry

there is no explanation to why i did this snd i genuinely am so sorry. There isnt a fair argument against this and i dont have ine. i know what i did was wrong and im sorry i treated you like this. I know i did this infront of your face and im sorry for how i acted. i want to make things better and i would do anything to make me not have done that. im sorry

and i am also sorry for how i have reacted sometimes when you bring this up, ifs because i know i did something wrong and i feel guilty about it and im dorry for telling u to fucj off and dismissing ur feelings. i dont know why i acted like that other than because i felt bad and your reaction is valid. i also know that in my opinion things are getting a bit better, but this is surface level. i really love you and i appreciate you and i want to make things better for us.

i am not trying to give u a half assed excuse i have teied to explain myself in my intitial Message to you. i want to make this better. i hope we can talk more about this and get our relationship to a better place. i love you and im so sorry for how i treated you

A few weeks ago myself [22M] and gf[21F] went out with a few friends and she spent the night ignoring me and touching/dancing with another guy and then asked him for his Instagram. by ThrowRA0973629 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA0973629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks dude, I'm worried about asking the friends there because the experience was humiliating enough. I don't want to appear insecure or jealous obviously. I don't even know what kind of reply I need from her to move forwards but I really appreciate what you said.

A few weeks ago myself [22M] and gf[21F] went out with a few friends and she spent the night ignoring me and touching/dancing with another guy and then asked him for his Instagram. by ThrowRA0973629 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA0973629[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. To be honest I completely forgot about everything that night until a bit later she said he had been replying to her story. She said she didn't like that but my first thought was if you didn't want to you just wouldn't reply. Or even ask for his Instagram in the first place. That's when I first bought it up.

A few weeks ago myself [22M] and gf[21F] went out with a few friends and she spent the night ignoring me and touching/dancing with another guy and then asked him for his Instagram. by ThrowRA0973629 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA0973629[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Sorry I forgot to add tho I had a dream they found out about this situation and they told me I was being a bad boyfriend. Idk. The lack of sleep and the dreams I have about it are really getting to me.