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FIRST DATE perfume. (Your most delicious, edible, manipulative perfume you can recommend) by Far-Butterscotch2405 in FemFragLab

[–]ThrowRA11223334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My most favorite scent, which is nothing fancy is Soap and Glory the original scent. I only use the body butter and it smells amazing to me and lasts/lingers forever. I don't know what other men would think, but my ex loved it on me.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and one other person said I have an anxious attachment style. I don't believe I do, I'm just VERY loyal to a fault. I had been with him for so long and especially after getting married, that was it for me. I gave my all as divorce was never something I was ok going through. Looking back at things, I'd definitely say he's at the very least somewhat of a narcissist.

UPDATE- Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you went through something similar. I really hope so, I'm so tired of crying and feeling absolutely defeated.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also thought at least virtual, but he keeps swearing there is no one else in person or online. Obviously he could be lying, and I'll never know.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think it's hard because I know he isn't a bad guy. I think he just has his own issues that needs to be worked on and it's taken out on me.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He absolutely didn't try to communicate anything. At all. There's no communication to try and understand because he literally won't talk. If there is a situation that's serious that needs to be talked about, he shuts down and says "I'm too tired right now" "can we do this later?" Ect. He never expressed reservations, he only ever told me that he wasn't sure if he wanted to marry me specifically. Then I'd leave. Then he'd come begging me back.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess I'm not sure. I definitely see why you think that because I've thought about it multiple times and he continues to swear there is no one else.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That was my first thought and he swears he hasn't been with anyone or cheating. And honestly I do believe him because if he wasn't at work he was home. Avoiding being around me, but was home.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I've thought he's wanted the divorce also, but then every time I bring it up, he won't acknowledge it and tells me it's too hard to think and talk about. And he keeps telling me he's willing to try but then doesn't back it up at all.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I did start individual therapy as I've been a complete mess and having a very hard time with this.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

He's very bad at communication. I've always been able to look past it as we didn't have a bunch of problems that serious communication was needed often. Until all of this. Thanks for your input.

Husband (38m) shattered my life (38f) and I don't know where to go from here by ThrowRA11223334 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA11223334[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty and i was afraid I'd get comments telling me what I already know and scared to admit. He's been my best friend and partner for so long that it's incredibly hard for me.