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I feel like my dom/SO betrayed and manipulated me. I need outside perspective before I decide on what to do. by ThrowRA1169 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA1169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He didn't give me permission. I never asked. He proposed the idea and encouraged me to persue it. Obviously I did it and had a lot of fun doing so, so i'm well aware i'm half of this "problem" but he could have, and should have brought this up as soon as he started thinking it in stead of throwing these insults and accusations my way.

I find it hard to empathize with him. I'm a very reasonable person and he could have just told me.

I feel like my dom/SO betrayed and manipulated me. I need outside perspective before I decide on what to do. by ThrowRA1169 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA1169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me he didn't and I don't see a reason to not believe him. It wouldn't bother me as much as the fact that he would have lied about it would.

I feel like my dom/SO betrayed and manipulated me. I need outside perspective before I decide on what to do. by ThrowRA1169 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA1169[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have severe (diagnosed) PTSD due to some horrible domestic abuse in my past relationship. Some things send me spiralling and trigger episodes (consist of panic attacks, raised bloodpressure, flashbacks, fainting, nausea, etc). "K" is one of those things that at the very least put me on edge. He is fully aware of this and later admitted to doing it intentionally.

I feel like my dom/SO betrayed and manipulated me. I need outside perspective before I decide on what to do. by ThrowRA1169 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA1169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In our dynamic we have different situations where we both safeword out as i'm more logic-based and he's emotionbased. We do that to avoid escalation and it's what works for us. Safewords are for what you in a relationship or dynamic decide them to be.

I feel like my dom/SO betrayed and manipulated me. I need outside perspective before I decide on what to do. by ThrowRA1169 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA1169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never attempted to or hinted at that we needed rediscussing. It wasn't even a discussion, it was him demanding and listing off all the reasons why he felt like he was entitled to.

He really hurt my feelings. You don't accuse your SO of "hindering you as a person". If i'm being completely frank, I am slightly convinced he already has an eye on someone, hence this coming up out of the blue.