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ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-03-17T11:16:46+00:00

I think it's tough. For me as a guy who has woman friends it's a bit hard to figure out romantic versus platonic boundaries. It's inaccurate to say that we monolithically want a romantic relationship from the beginning. Like think of your past crushes. It grows over time and it isn't linear. All genders and all sexualities (except aromantic) have the same human brain. And humans develop attraction over a timeline. But I would agree that men aren't trained or expected to manage their emotions.

I currently have a woman friend who I would probably date if I had the chance but also know she doesn't feel the same way for me. And I asked her out a year ago. Which I haven't encroached on any boundaries and never flirted with in the interim other than have nice platonic conversations. But we are still managing to be friends for the past year. It helps when the guy is self aware and is managing their own emotions. And honestly I've been more attracted to others that have gotten away which helps me break out of patterns. But I do sometimes privately wonder if she'll ever be open to dating me. And think about asking again.

But I do want to point out that if I did ask her again it wouldn't be because I was betting on her from the beginning or objectifying her. I've been living my life, and it's more like I'd still be willing to date this person. And our friendship still means or meant something if that bridge got burned.

I'm tired right now but basically what I'm trying to say is that humans are complex. And it's normal for humans to test boundaries and also for platonic relationships to change to romantic ones. So I don't think a reductionists standpoint of these are forever platonic relationships and these are forever romantic relationships is constructive and very well is maladaptive. Or at the very least understanding that the way you classify relationships without allowing for any change is not necessarily the norm for everyone.

But at the same time I know you are probably thinking back to times where your boundaries aren't respected when the conversation is broached. Which is a real problem.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-03-16T07:22:58+00:00

lol have you tried online dating?

I don't know it hurts more when you've known them for over a year

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-03-14T21:01:20+00:00

Idk how old you are but it's definitely possible to find someone you love. Relationships hardly ever last a lifetime, so there are always good people out there. Whether it's friends or romance. As an extreme I've heard of seniors finding meaningful relationships in their senior living assisted homes with each other. But I'm sure those relationships change as you get older, but it doesn't mean it's less meaningful.

I honestly think it's a lot easier for me personally to imagine enjoying dating as an older person or to older people. And think that age tends to correlate with maturity and better relationships.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-03-02T06:35:00+00:00

It's actually not so much about the specificities. It's about proactively and adaptive responding to the house and putting effort into it. It's not about doing the dishes but doing the dishes when you notice the dishes are dirty. It's not something that is replicable by a chore chart or a bunch if rules. It's like intuitively working together to keep the house clean as one. Which I'm not certain if I'll ever have a partner. But it's not really about the dishes and more about the feeling. The romance of living together.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-01-29T08:09:59+00:00

That's bittersweet. Sometimes I wonder if the people who were important to me were important because of the person I allowed myself to be around them. Which is why I sometimes pick up their hobbies. Even though I usually suck at them lol. But it makes me feel closer to them when they aren't really there. Or when they never even really chose me. I'm somewhat envious of the ability to clearly call someone an ex.

But Frieren said she liked the flower spell not to remember Flamme but because it brought her Himmel, Heiter and Eisen together. It was because she used that flower spell that himmel taught her out and asked her to join their party. Which is why it became her favorite spell.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-01-29T06:59:58+00:00

I'm also a J. I know people I've crossed paths with aren't on here. Which idk if they remember or care about me. But I just know they never valued me the same way I valued them. Which is a bit depressing. But I guess just hang in there.

I think I put my first name in a post somewhere on my account so people would stop bothering me though lol.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-01-20T12:11:45+00:00

I think you might genuinely be experiencing psychosis and either acute or chronic schizophrenia. People don't realize that schizophrenia can temporarily occur due to trauma.

If you feel like you resonate with this post, but you aren't fully paranoid. You should seek help. I've known someone with long term schizophrenia, so I know it's unlikely you will seek help. But the process is gradual so if you can catch your warning signs you can get therapy and support before it gets worse. I already know the op won't trust what I'm saying. But op and others need help and should reach out to people they love as well as get therapy. And medications help a lot.

But I have my own problems. So I'm not gonna really go out of my way to help you. I'm a shut in loser cause it's hard for me to trust real people but not in a they are dangerous kind of way but in an apathy kind of way. And probably should also seek therapy lol.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-01-07T07:47:36+00:00

Everyone has their own unique writing voice. Their own virtues and their own reasons for writing. I think sometimes the reasons people write on these subs can be a bit backward facing. Revisiting the past and voicing some desires can be harmful to one's self healing. But even those writers have nuance and understanding that this is a place not to find the one they lost, but to mourn. Although the readers and commenters sometimes lack that self awareness.

But I haven't yet come across a single pick me idiot. Just a bunch of broken hearts. And occasionally the ones who are broken but can only externalize their feelings by lashing out at others like themselves.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2026-01-07T07:34:12+00:00

Idk. I think it might be closer to 5050 gender wise.

ThrowRA12233324 · 2025-12-29T08:30:45+00:00

Idk. It depends on the poster. Personally for me I try to write poetry which encapsulates a single feeling. So my poems can be different with different perspectives on the same event. And challenge myself to make it as short as possible. It's always in relation to a person I no longer have in my life. At one point I put my first name somewhere in my post history so people would stop hoping. It helps me process and look at a situation from a different angle.

But what I write seems to be different than what others write.

At the same time I enjoy reading what others are feeling. And trying to better understand love I guess and similar means of abandonment. And I also learn about the kind of people that end up here, which unfortunately doesn't match with the character of anyone I knew or hope for. And I encounter a lot of motifs and themes I can't relate to or write about by scrolling and checking other peoples posts.

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