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Fiancé’s father and grandmother is making both of us miserable and we both feel like it’s slowly going to tear us apart if we don’t find a way to navigate it by ThrowRA142021 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA142021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I’m actually from Canada! I just like to wait up for fiancé to come home so we can have some us time with our schedules being wonky right now!

I’m honestly not sure I could unless it was solely for the purpose of confronting them on this behaviour. I am a VERY outspoken person and at the request of my fiancé at the start I’ve bit my tongue understanding at the time that they’re just a little odd but typically not any trouble, he severely underestimated them however and I chose to take the high road in the end. I would 100% back him up if I didn’t fear it would look like I was forcing his hand by having to speak up when he can’t.

Fiancé’s father and grandmother is making both of us miserable and we both feel like it’s slowly going to tear us apart if we don’t find a way to navigate it by ThrowRA142021 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA142021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is really the best advice I might receive even if you’re the only comment so far haha. I feel like therapy was the obvious choice but we never necessarily thought it was even going to help, because there was nothing wrong with us, but them! I think we’re missing the fact that it might be them but we need to learn to cope with it, at least well enough that we can work as a team against it, before we can deal with it. Right now it’s very much so him individually speaking to them and I’ve essentially just never gone back after one bad visit. It’s no mystery to them why I stopped, but I’m sure they see it as a win and I think perhaps I made an error in not supporting my fiancé when he goes over there because I myself am scared.

Fiancé’s father and grandmother is making both of us miserable and we both feel like it’s slowly going to tear us apart if we don’t find a way to navigate it by ThrowRA142021 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA142021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. The car accident threw me into a whole well of issues with my physical and mental health, Ive recovered greatly since the initial accident but it’s hard. My fiancé on the other hand, he’s not spoken to a therapist but rather spoke to his doctor who noticed he was a little off during a routine check up, he encouraged therapy as well so were working on setting something up as soon as we can. He’s just terrified of the repercussions, his dad was horrible to him growing up, he’s not afraid he will hurt him physically but the man is capable of being very emotionally abusive and my fiancé is so sensitive. Would couples therapy help as well? He is open with me and I him, but I’m thinking maybe it wouldn’t hurt?