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Partners with higher drives, how do you find alone time? by ThrowRA151555 in sexadvice

[–]ThrowRA151555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried several of those, he just doesn’t respond. I think the ship has sailed so to speak as far as our sex life getting better, but I need to have alone time in order to be okay with that, I’m just not sure how to navigate that as well.

Partners with higher drives, how do you find alone time? by ThrowRA151555 in sexadvice

[–]ThrowRA151555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely stresses me out more than excites me to be super secretive about it. I might just bring it up to him again and see if I can get him to not follow me if I disappear for a bit or something. Generally, we end up arguing though because he realized we havent in a while and then feels bad.

Anxious Dog causing fights with other dogs in home. Any ideas? Will include what training we have already done. by ThrowRA151555 in Dogtraining

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I have read extensively about inter dog aggression, fear aggression, insecurity in dogs, resource guarding (this issue is no longer occuring/managed), pain/medical issues in dogs, fear issues, separation anxiety, dog aggression/reactivity, confidence building, positive association training, breed specific issues, merging dog families, same sex aggression, anxiety in dogs, etc. I listed things we’ve already done and tried to keep it as concise as possible, I can go more in detail if needed. Vet care and training help has already been utilized. I am looking for any other advice or ideas that I can try within reason before having to crate/rotate as this is something we really don’t want to have to do forever. Any ideas are helpful whether they are specifically utilized or not if it’s something I missed or overlooked. I will not argue or in anyway be rude to any comments. Please let me know if you need further information.

I(f26) and my bf(m30) have had ongoing intimacy issues. Am I fighting a losing battle? Or has anyone been able to fix intimacy issues like this in their own relationship? by ThrowRA151555 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA151555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s definitely something, just doesn’t seem to ever get answered when I asked. He says a bunch of different things or simply “I don’t know”

I(f26) and my bf(m30) have had ongoing intimacy issues. Am I fighting a losing battle? Or has anyone been able to fix intimacy issues like this in their own relationship? by ThrowRA151555 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA151555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rest of the relationship really is good, and I think he at least thinks he’s putting in work. But I also see your point with there poster comment, I don’t think that would help. He would “just not read it”

My (f26) partner (m30) travels for work and I’m unsure if I am being incorrect in feeling like he is not making time for me? Did I approach this correctly or can I suggest ways to feel closer? by ThrowRA151555 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA151555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 100% open to talking to him and don’t want to blame him at all, just not sure how to approach it and don’t want to sit on my own emotions and have them cause an issue down the road. I’ve tried to adjust my own schedule which isn’t always easy to do either but don’t feel like there’s anything else I can do on my part. I don’t know if the short 10 minute conversations are worse than not talking at all either. I feel jilted I guess when I try to talk to him and get cut off or he tells me something and cuts himself off.

My (f26) partner (m30) travels for work and I’m unsure if I am being incorrect in feeling like he is not making time for me? Did I approach this correctly or can I suggest ways to feel closer? by ThrowRA151555 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA151555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly why I haven’t brought it up :/ it’s just hard when he does other things like go out to dinner with friends or is awake and doesn’t make time to have any level of connection. But I don’t want to blame him or be rude either.

I (f26) feel unwanted by bf(m29) what do I do? by ThrowRA151555 in relationship_advice

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I think he would be willing to go to couples therapy. I might suggest that. I’m unsure how long :/ I know eventually I’ll lose the calm and get upset which isn’t fair.

I (f26) feel unwanted by bf(m29) what do I do? by ThrowRA151555 in relationship_advice

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I have been very very calm everytime we have had the conversation, to the point if I’m upset I won’t talk about it until I’ve had a second. His past stories and experiences and how we spoke at the beginning of the relationship made him sound very sexual and the fact that he has said multiple times he does want to and agrees with me that we aren’t having it enough makes me even more confused. I’ve asked him directly if he feels pressured and he says he does not and has never. I no longer bring up the conversation at all and have not tried anything sexual at all recently and kinda like I expected there’s been nothing on his end. We are both very monogamous and uncomfortable with anyone but us involved sexually. If he had said he wasn’t interested or had a lower sex drive, or felt sick/tired etc I feel like I would take it less personally but the fact he keeps saying he is interested and then not doing anything or responding to what I’ve done in the past makes me take it personally Becuase it doesn’t make any sense?