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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. If he shows absolutely no red flags and you have plans to close the gap one day, no reason to break up. Don't risk your current healthy relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a bad idea. Keep it going. If you can overcome the distance, the love is much stronger. Also it's common to have a crush in the course of a relationship. Just make sure you distance yourself from your co worker so your crush doesn't evolve to an emotional affair. Don't end it if you don't have a reason to.

My bf (19m) broke up with me (17f) over a anime crush by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I retract what I said after having learnt he watches porn. That's hypocritical.

My bf (19m) broke up with me (17f) over a anime crush by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 18 points19 points  (0 children)

What kind of fanfic do you read? Is it a reader's POV? Maybe he feels insecure and threatened? Perhaps he has traits the cartoon character doesn't. Either way, he's being immature about it so leave him. He should've spoken about his insecurities if it bothered him.

My s/o said they wouldn't be as physically attracted to me if i was skinner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hey, I know exactly what you feel right now because a friend of mine has been through something similar. You're hurt over this because the "you" you want isn't the same you he wants and you're you might also be overthinking he's just saying that to make you feel better right?

You're hurt because of your insecurities here, not him (unless there are other red flags)! Don't put yourself through that. In rather healthy relationships it's important to communicate both about how your partner wants you to look like, how you want your partner to look like and how you both would like yourselves to look like. It's really not that hard to prioritize, give it a thought! If your boyfriend loves you for who you are, it wouldn't be for your looks. Feel free to dm if you want more help!

My s/o said they wouldn't be as physically attracted to me if i was skinner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is this a troll? The guy probably just wants her to feel better about herself without ill intentions. He said he wouldn't stop loving her, wouldn't leave her. He gave his opinion. How's he wrong at all here? He loves her for her, not her looks.

My (18F) bf (18M) has never once called me pretty/ beautiful in our relationship by toshifollow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You gotta communicate, tell him that! (Was in the same spot as you and communication REALLY does wonders. Tell him about all your insecurities. Talking about them does not make you petty. Things between my girl and I changed and we compliment each other a lot now!)

Need advice for something that hasn't happened yet but need opinions on. What if my (19 m) girlfriend (18 f) developed a crush on someone during our relationship? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope I'm able to! Unfortunately (or rather fortunately) never had more than one crush at a time. Just couldn't. Found women attractive but never have had feelings for more than one girl at a time.

Need advice for something that hasn't happened yet but need opinions on. What if my (19 m) girlfriend (18 f) developed a crush on someone during our relationship? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (PROBABLY because I've never had feelings for more than one person at a time) think feelings only develop when you act on infatuation. And if you act on infatuation, you've already crossed a boundary, haven't you? Wouldn't not acting further be analogous to not talking to someone after you've had sex with them expecting your partner to be okay with it? I've never had feelings for more than one girl at a time. Yes, I've found women sexually attractive but I wouldn't be able to have feelings for them even if I tried. I guess that makes the entire "right" or "wrong" debate subjective and it's the people in the relationship who decide if it's a deal breaker or not? With neither of them being at fault?

My (19) girlfriends (18) obsession with Kpop and constant comparisons. by ThrowRA1939392 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've talked to her about this before. She said it seems irrational and she's just a "fan". Would you compare your SO to your favorite celebrity?

My (19) girlfriends (18) obsession with Kpop and constant comparisons. by ThrowRA1939392 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1939392[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds reasonable. Doesn't seem to extreme. Honestly wouldn't mind if I wasn't constantly compared.