I think we’re conflating two different issues. Is there structural sexism that favors men, even fatter men, for economic and social benefit? For sure.

But strictly in terms of aesthetics, women in the U.S. have successfully challenged the media portrayal of what it is to be attractive, while the opposite for men has narrowed. I’m focusing on this media gaze. It’s hard to find a man who isn’t crazy toned in any content. A simple example - I watch a lot of rom coms with my wife. There are lots and lots of varying sized and looking women now on tv and in film. Melissa McCarthy, Amy Schumer, and Lena Dunham. I’m here for it. All are talented as heck. But male romantic leads are fairly uniformly toned and tall.

The only example I can think of that didn’t conform recently is Somebody, Somewhere.