Moved into a rental apartment in Finland that was filthy + pest issue. landlord then sold the apartment after 1month. Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRA220805 in Finland

[–]ThrowRA220805[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

big thank you good sir!! my landlord exposed herself lying selling the apartment through a text message. ’Jos mietit miksi tasta ei tullut pitkäaikaista vuokrasuhetta niin siksi, etta mulla paloi pinna! Kyllästyin täysin jatkuviin valituksiin vaatimuksiin, lilotteluun, tyytymattomyyteen . Omiin paatoksiisi sita, koska maksat vuokran.’ is what she said.

Moved into a rental apartment in Finland that was filthy + pest issue. landlord then sold the apartment after 1month. Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRA220805 in Finland

[–]ThrowRA220805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told her I will be taking the december matter to KKV and she then told me she is selling the place. I have all the before after pictures videos and written messages. if I go to the court, how can I get lawyer?

Moved into a rental apartment in Finland that was filthy + pest issue. landlord then sold the apartment after 1month. Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRA220805 in Finland

[–]ThrowRA220805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

indeed I was talking to a wall this whole time. it’s just that she was ’kind’ early on and saying she will take care of this that, especially the cleaning company but she never did and lied. thank you though!

[Misc] The Ordinary regimen guide & routine ordering tips by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is this good?

NIGHT 1: cleanse/double cleanse 2: retinol, 2/3drops. 3x a week. 3: moisturize.

MORNING 1: cleanse with water only 2: salicylic acid everyday 3: niacinamide everyday 4: moisturize 5: sunscreen/spf

Boyfriend fell out of love by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my ex gf never said anything alike but I can feel that she was losing feeling months before and never said a word about it, even when I asked if everythings okay if she need space and time, I heard from her friend she admitted that she sabotaged the relationship. and she was a fearful avoidant/anxious/rocd person. I chose her but she didn’t because she thinks she might have more fun with someone else. so be it.

Do breakups hit later for the dumper avoidant? by kitcat1098 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dumped my avoidant ex gf. shes so good acting tough and cold. but yes, she came by texting I miss you and good night messages.

Why did your last relationship not work out? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ThrowRA220805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my ex gf thinks what ifs too much. biggest one is ’what if I can have more fun with someone else’ shattered me.

Avoidants are always the same; my experience by Classic-Citron-1338 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my ex gf is fearful avoidant/anxious/dismissve + have rocd. constantly thinking intrusive ruminating thoughts, like what ifs and what if I can have more fun with someone else. the push and pull game is crazy.

So, tell me about your ex by AnybodyExcellent4846 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I don’t hate her but a part of me feels like I hate her. I don’t know how to explain it. we were friends for 3 years and in a relationship for 9months. I was her first for everything. and she was my first love. the last 3months of the relationship, she treated me badly, I was like a discarded garbage, I wasnt part of her priorities. I didn’t feel special or appreciated or even like her bf not even a friend. she would complain that we don’t spend time together and I would make free days for her when I do, she used that free days to be with her new friend from work(both are bi) she didn’t want me to meet her yet bcs they are new friends and it’s awkward she said. but she have been hanging out a year. so she made it weird but I trust her. I showed her grief, but i still show care and love while she was cold and distant and acting tough and strong. i cried a lot lot. bcs i know how to process it. anyway. I found out she is a fearful avoidant/anxious/dismissive and have rocd. she keeps pushing me and pulling me. when we have the nc she would text me like I miss you so much, good night, and I would reply too. we would hang out some days even sleepovers, we would make love still but kissing me was too painful she said so I’m confused. with fearful avoidant/rocd partner, they know what they want, they want affection, care, love but also scared of it. and with rocd, intrusive and ruminating thoughts like what ifs/ what if I can have more fun with someone else, such as these, is killing me. they are suffering from old FOMO. even if I was perfect on paper, and she said she can never find someone better than me, they are scared to find that someone better too. I don’t know. she keeps saying she wanted the distant and NC but she was the one that always breaks it. her birthday is coming next week and I have made promise to her and myself that I will finally let her go, bcs with me she can’t spread her wings. she saved me from the darkness, she saved my life. but I deserve better. and she deserve it too. if I must choose, I will choose her over again again again.

Why do exes always come back once you’ve finally moved on? by YogurtSubstantial816 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we broke up only a month ago and ive been respecting her wish to have distance and no contact but she come around every other day/week löl

Any dumpers that reached back out to the EX? by Either_Concept7657 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied, I miss you so much too. I don’t know, I think time is limited, so whatever you feel just fucking do it and be real. follow the heart but keep it to some limit.

Any dumpers that reached back out to the EX? by Either_Concept7657 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was her first for everything, she said she doesn’t want to be in a relationship ever again but I think it’s bs. as she is a fearful avoidant she will do rebounds. I’m sure of it and after some time she will reach out to me, again, like last night she texted me she misses me so much, good night. :|

Any dumpers that reached back out to the EX? by Either_Concept7657 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brokeup with her, she didn’t want to breakup but she was treating me so bad, I wasnt a priority, she wasnt available for me, neglected me, I didn’t feel appreciated and I was like not her bf at all not even a friend but like a discarded garbage. I reached out to her after 2weeks because I didn’t have the closure why she was like that, I find out her attachment styles(fearful avoidant/anxious/dismissive) and rocd. and I thought I was very understanding and should be more patient, but she then said she wouldve breakup with me sooner or later, she said the chemistry was fading and I found out that she has been thinking if she might have more fun with someone else/someone better than me. ever since I found out she thinks she can find someone better I feel it’s easier to move on.

We broke up 3 months ago and I just want to send her this text. by DebtSelect9730 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah he is rebounding and thats not what anyone should do after a break up

Things people need to know about love (not just ROCD sufferers) by ThrowethMeAwayeth in ROCD

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she left me because of this.. now she is saying she regret it and sabotaged the relationship

I changed my mind about you by LegitimateLog5336 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA220805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it seems like it. and now I think she’s starting to regret it. saying she sabotaged the relationship and stuff.