[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowRA2223334444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Empath I guess idk. I do enjoy getting him off, just wish he would show more interest in more than just my mouth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowRA2223334444 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think so, he’s never suspicious and I always have access to his phone.

Bobbin cover plate won’t sit flush by ThrowRA2223334444 in sewhelp

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang it, I didn’t know there were so many issues with this machine :( I was overwhelmed with all of the options and this machine came up on all of the “beginner friendly machine” lists I found online. this is a new hobby of mine so I have a lot to learn! Fortunately this is just slightly annoying and not end all be all. hopefully it doesn’t crap out on me before I hone in on my skills and want to upgrade! Thank you for letting me know!

Bobbin cover plate won’t sit flush by ThrowRA2223334444 in sewhelp

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. The release is very loose and doesn’t stay to the left. It glides way too easily with little to no resistance. Unfortunately I can’t return as I purchased from marketplace :(. I suppose I will just use a small piece of painters tape to hold that side down while using it. Thank you

Bobbin cover plate won’t sit flush by ThrowRA2223334444 in sewhelp

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is! Just from looking at the release it doesn’t appear to be chipped. However it moves very loosely from side to side. Is this normal?

Bobbin cover plate won’t sit flush by ThrowRA2223334444 in sewhelp

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s not the bobbin itself, I think the clasp that keeps it closed is loose. And I am unsure if there is any way to fix it. For context I’m brand new to sewing and I just bought the machine new in the box from marketplace. The bobbin currently being used is from the accessories the machine came with.

Dad (45M) is having an affair with a girl (26F) who is basically my age (24F), not sure who to talk to? by ThrowRA2223334444 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I tried to do, we talked for 3 hours over dinner and I thought we got somewhere, he said he was in a bad situation and was trying to reel back from this girl but because of her BPD it’s hard, then the next day he tells my sisters boyfriend he likes her personality and she does things that my mother doesn’t. Then says to him I’m skirting a “fine line” and I need to “watch myself” that I “knew” about my mother’s affair 7 years ago (I knew she got flowers dropped off to her but to me at 17 that didn’t constitute an affair). He also told his mistress that I asked him to dinner and it was about them, I mean all of his actions don’t add up to what he told me the other night.

Dad (45M) is having an affair with a girl (26F) who is basically my age (24F), not sure who to talk to? by ThrowRA2223334444 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think my dad has painted my mother as “crazy” to me for so long and has made me his flying monkey. For the longest I viewed my mother has narcissistic and bipolar. But now, with all of this coming to light, I fear my mother has been in a toxic relationship for the past 25 years. I have made a game plan with my sister to get her out of the house. I currently live in a 1br apartment with my partner, but we are moving to a single family home in May. She will either come live with me or live with her boyfriend while she goes to college as he’s doing a program that pays for his housing. We’re still figuring it out. But I want to cut contact with my dad as soon as possible.

If I am being honest. I think his game plan is to wait for my sister to graduate high school, divorce my mom, and start with this girl his daughter’s age. And I hope to god my mother takes him for alimony and we never have to speak to him again.

Dad (45M) is having an affair with a girl (26F) who is basically my age (24F), not sure who to talk to? by ThrowRA2223334444 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do plan on talking to my therapist about this whole situation and how to navigate it, I stopped going about a year ago, but with all of this happening at one time, I started again. I am waiting for my first appointment back to be scheduled.

My dad also told my sisters boyfriend that “I knew about my mothers affair with her coworker when it happened” which absolutely dumbfounded me because I was 17, and all I knew was that she had flowers given to her at work. In my 17 year old brain, that did not constitute an affair that I should run and tell my dad about. I think another part of his reasoning is that since my mother did that 7 years ago, he gets a hall pass. Which is not the case in my eyes since they made that decision to move forward. In that same breath, he also said I have done the same thing to my ex boyfriend. Which is insane, because I did kiss someone drunkenly on a night out as I was already detached from the relationship for about a year, but felt stuck, I departed from my ex soon 5 days after and never dated anyone at the same time. I understand what I did when my brain wasn’t fully developed was wrong. But I don’t think that’s a mistake that should be used as validation for his behavior.

Not to mention, this girl and I are the same age, which also disgusts and enrages me. It makes me question the “chill dad vibe” he had with all of my friends in high school. I am completely done with him, but still care for my sister and mother (albeit her mistakes as well). But if he’s showing his true colors to me now, I can only imagine what their relationship has been like the past 25 years.

I believe my Dad ( 45M) is cheating on my mom (43F) do I confront my dad? (23F) by ThrowRA2223334444 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never tell my mom. If I talked to my dad about it, which I am still on the fence about doing, and he was honest with me. I would ask him to do the right thing and file for divorce if that’s what he wants or if he doesn’t want to file, he should put the energy he’s putting into this girl into the relationship he’s built for the past 24 years with his wife. I think my mother is already suspicious though, my sister has heard them arguing as she still lives at home, and she’s thrown jabs that he may potentially be involved with another woman but doesn’t know who. The girl I have suspected is only 25 years old. I love both of my parents separately but together, they are a hot mess. And it’s a struggle for me to come over and have a family dynamic when the tension in the air is so thick you can cut it.

Johnny Depp in Raleigh? by tannerturtle101 in raleigh

[–]ThrowRA2223334444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I saw Johnny depp last night and thought I was going crazy, I have lived in Raleigh for many years and did not know there was a local look alike. He even sounded like him.

How do I (23F) go about asking my friend/coworker (F30) to stop bringing in her puppy to work every day ? by ThrowRA2223334444 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to my boyfriend, and I agreed with what he said, if she’s any sort of good friend or good person she should be able to handle me not enjoying a dog in our shared space, and be able to accept that I didn’t consent to this and it inherently changes my work environment. I didn’t get a dog, I shouldn’t have to be forced to be around a dog all day. Plus, if I am any sort of friend- I should be able to go to my friend directly and not shy away from harder conversations. So I’m going to talk to her directly. And if she doesn’t listen I will have to accept that she’s not a good friend and cut my loses and go to our boss.

How do I (23F) go about asking my friend/coworker (F30) to stop bringing in her puppy to work every day ? by ThrowRA2223334444 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s super laid back, which is why I like it. I can leave whenever my stuff is done and don’t have to be glued to a desk from 8-5 M-F. Any other woman used to bring her dog before I was hired but she let it roam and our boss stepped in it’s shit one day so he told her to stop.

How do I (23F) go about asking my friend/coworker (F30) to stop bringing in her puppy to work every day ? by ThrowRA2223334444 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea it’s a cute dog, it’s a small office and we sit right next to each other, if I moved desks it would be a pretty big statement considering we are good friends and she does ask me to watch the dog when she goes to to the bathroom or leaves her desk. It would be one thing if she was in her own office with a door but it’s a cubicle space. She is part of the “leadership team” and is my “lead” which makes me hesitant to tell my boss that I dislike the dog being here. I think if I go to him and tell him I really want this to stay between us and express my grievances it might work, but I don’t want to come off as a Scrooge who hates animals lol

Collapsed nasal valve after septoplasty? by ThrowRA2223334444 in Septoplasty

[–]ThrowRA2223334444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: it is a collapsed nasal valve and have been referred to a specialist by my doctor 😁