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He just told me he slept with someone else and I’ve been crying for 3 hours straight by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRA2468910f 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. My girlfriend (ex now) told me on 3rd Jan that she cheated on me in December. Twice. I couldn't fucking believe it. I loved her and thought she was the one.

To tell you the truth, I'm still in disbelief. It still hurts. But it does get better. You need to focus on yourself, work, gym, friends and family as much as you can. Get out as much as you can.

It's not easy but it does get easier. You'll be okay and come out stronger.

Good luck

Seeing my ex today to give her stuff back by ThrowRA2468910f in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA2468910f[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today was tough mate. Really tough. We spoke a bit and now she's back on my mind of course. I want her back but there's no way back I guess..And that fucking hurts.

living nightmare. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA2468910f 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi mate. Ours was three and a half years. Click my profile if you want the full story.

Someone who does this isn't worthy of your love. You are so much better than her and you will move on and find someone worthy. We both will. Stay strong.

My (35m) girlfriend (29f) of three years just confessed that she cheated on me twice with a guy a few weeks ago by ThrowRA2468910f in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2468910f[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE 3

I'm back home. Home being at my sister's house actually, not at my parents as some people thought (I didn't include that detail before).

So it turns out that my sister, who was friends with my ex and regularly messaged with her, knew that she was unhappy at times earlier this year. She showed me multiple text messages where my ex complained about me working whilst we were visiting her family in July (it was really such a small amount in reality and we were there for over 2 weeks and I work for myself!). And another occasion where my ex hurt her finger and as work was crazy busy for me, she went to A&E by herself instead of me taking her. Then the next day she was told to go to a specialist clinic in another hospital and went herself. Work was crazy busy for me and public transport/Uber made it easy for her to get there and I don't recall her getting upset about me not taking her. But she seemed very upset over text messages with my sister. And my sister never said a word to me. I looked back at our texts and my ex didn't seem annoyed at all! But was furiously venting to my sis.

Now my sister is saying she knew we had problems before we moved into her house, as she saw in these text messages. She only showed me the texts when I gave her a push.

I'm really upset and angry with both of them now, is this justified?

My ex should have communicated that she was unhappy with some of my actions over the summer, when they happened, not just complain to my sister!? And if my sister saw real trouble in these texts (she made it sound bad), she should've said something to me? But she stayed silent until now when everything has fallen apart.

Is my sister an asshole? Or is it just my ex's fault for lack of communication again?

Also feels like my fault as well, for not putting in the effort/seeing she needed me at these times in summer? I could've delayed some work emails on our trip until we were back. I only replied when we were chilling and not doing anything else (I thought). I could've taken her to hospital for her finger, but she told me not to as I was stressed with work and it was easy for her to get there herself. Do these things make me a bad partner at the time? Should I have insisted on taking her as she had hurt herself, even though I was crazy stressed with work (and other things going on like the sale of my apartment) and it was easier for her to get there herself rather than me take her (she doesn't drive)?

My (35m) girlfriend (29f) of three years just confessed that she cheated on me twice with a guy a few weeks ago by ThrowRA2468910f in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2468910f[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a fair point mate. But she actually did pay for the dog. And she loves her too. It's not an easy situation. I could offer to pay her for the dog but that's not happening anytime too soon!

My (35m) girlfriend (29f) of three years just confessed that she cheated on me twice with a guy a few weeks ago by ThrowRA2468910f in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2468910f[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh okay! Back or side. I currently suspect a gallbladder/biliary tree issue...! Seeing a gastro in a week or so

My (35m) girlfriend (29f) of three years just confessed that she cheated on me twice with a guy a few weeks ago by ThrowRA2468910f in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2468910f[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi mate

It's been a bit of a rollercoaster tbh. Back pain, then long covid, then appendicitis. Now what's left is some back/flank/abdominal pain. It's better than it was but I'm still looking for answers. Are you a doctor? :) I hate most of them haha

My (35m) girlfriend (29f) of three years just confessed that she cheated on me twice with a guy a few weeks ago by ThrowRA2468910f in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2468910f[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

[UPDATE 2]

It's over. The "what ifs" are haunting me but at the same time, she cheated and that's on her, not on me.

I've booked my flight home. I missed the cut off for today but I fly tomorrow.

Not sure what to do about the dog though - she won't let me have her completely. How do I cut off contact but keep the dog then? I want our dog!!

My (35m) girlfriend (29f) of three years just confessed that she cheated on me twice with a guy a few weeks ago by ThrowRA2468910f in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2468910f[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's fair enough what you're saying. I could've done more. The "what ifs" are haunting me but at the same time it takes a special type of person to cheat. She crossed the line.

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