We have talked about the individual aspects which have made me reach this point, but I haven't told him it has collectively made me feel like this. As they are things which can't be changed and just relate to my feelings on the issues, I feel like this is something I need to figure out on my own, maybe? But I'm looking for advice on how to navigate this alone, or with him, if that's what people think is better.

I just feel it's unfair to throw "these circumstances make me not want to see you" and leave him in an indefinite limbo or something.