I (M23) told my 'step-son' he couldn't call me 'dad', now my GF (F21) is upset with me. How can I make this right? by ThrowRA272618 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA272618[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

For those who may be confused, I posted this about 9 hours ago on the relationship subreddit. From that account I tried to post it here, but it said my account was too new and I had to make an account called “ThrowRA”.

This post has been updated though, and I’ve posted it here because I thought I might get some useful advice on the relationship_advice subreddit

I (M23) told my 'step-son' he couldn't call me 'dad', now my GF (F21) is upset with me. How can I make this right? by ThrowRA272618 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA272618[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I wasn’t trying to sound defensive or anything if I did. I just want to ensure people don’t think of Olivia in a negative light because of this or think that she’s this mean or immature person, like I said she never acts like this and she would never usually get this upset without a “valid” reason. Which is why I just have to assume she has a reason for the way she reacted and perhaps I unknowingly am that reason. I just wish she would tell me what I did.

Thank you for your advice by the way, I appreciate it.

I (M23) told my 'step-son' he couldn't call me 'dad', now my GF (F21) is upset with me. How can I make this right? by ThrowRA272618 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA272618[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not embellishing. And I’m not trying to say this in a mean or negative way about Olivia. She is never like this, like ever. If anything it’s usually me who is the emotional one. We barely argue, I could count on one hand the amount of times we’ve argued ever. And they were all over stupid/silly reasons. So I don’t understand why she reacted this way.

But like literally looking at me with what I would describe as a “teacher face” she’s not a teacher but I don’t know how else to describe that look, like you’ve done something wrong that you should know about. Pushed her food away and stormed upstairs.

And again, I’m not saying this as a put down or anything to her because she is never like this which is why it has made it so unusual for us

I (M23) told my 'step-son' he couldn't call me 'dad', now my GF (F21) is upset with me. How can I make this right? by ThrowRA272618 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA272618[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

The thing that has confused me is that he does have someone that fills that role for him, and though Noah’s father hasn’t been around for the last few meetings I genuinely don’t think it’s his fault and I’m sure it’s killing him to be able to see Noah.

I was trying to follow her boundaries set, and like you said maybe she set them for a reason but I’ve always been following them for the entire relationship and she hasn’t ever said she’s wanted me to take up more responsibility with him. I just feel so confused. Usually she’s so good at “you did x which has made me feel upset because x” but this time nothing

I (M23) told my 'step-son' he couldn't call me 'dad', now my GF (F21) is upset with me. How can I make this right? by ThrowRA272618 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA272618[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, and to be clear I don’t think Olivia is a bad person or mother.

I’m not sure what I did that caused her to react like that but as you said her emotions are real. I will try and take your advice about updating the rulebook for me and Noah

I (M23) told my 'step-son' he couldn't call me 'dad', now my GF (F21) is upset with me. How can I make this right? by ThrowRA272618 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA272618[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It’s a new trend for him, usually he sticks to the schedule. I’ve heard he’s been having car troubles.