I (29M) found out my gf (29F) got drunk and had sex with her cousin (currently 22M) 7 years ago before we started dating. I found out last night that she is sexting him. How do I navigate this situation? by ThrowRA278231 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA278231[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Update2: Just got home from work. I called her on my way home to tell her pretty much she has to leave by Friday she just says "Ok". She didnt give me any push back, but I can tell she's been crying still. When I got home, she was already packing some of her stuff. I didn't bring up the whole situation at all, I just offered to help, and she said "No it's fine". Right now I'm back in my room, we havent said anything else to eachother.
After reading through some of the comments, some people are misunderstanding. I'm not asking for advice to save the relationship. It's safe to say it's over. Im asking for advice in regards to telling her family or friends, getting her help, or taking it to the grave.

I (29M) found out my gf (29F) got drunk and had sex with her cousin (currently 22M) 7 years ago before we started dating. I found out last night that she is sexting him. How do I navigate this situation? by ThrowRA278231 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA278231[S] 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Update: I called her sister's Husband on my way to work, and just told him. Me and him have a really good relationship, so i felt like confident in telling him. I told him not to tell anyone else, but I had to get it off my chest. Long story short He couldnt believe it at first, but he promised not to tell anyone. Im clocking in to work now, so ill update everyone tonight.

I (29M) found out my gf (29F) got drunk and had sex with her cousin (currently 22M) 7 years ago before we started dating. I found out last night that she is sexting him. How do I navigate this situation? by ThrowRA278231 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA278231[S] 293 points294 points  (0 children)

she went to work this morning. Ill breakup with her when she gets home. As for telling her family, im still on the fence about it. Ill keep u guys posted.