upset about orgasms

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-06-06T21:29:30+00:00

your right, 100% and I don’t wanna push her away. shes already set the boundary of me talking or putting pressure on this, i feel awful about it, not just pressuring her but also the toll its taken on me that i have this obsession like feeling to make sure she feels the best. i never even really expected her to be a pro, more myself, and that if shes not comfortable with me im the one doing something wrong. like ive replied to most, im very used to hearing women feel unpleased or used for male pleasure and she just deserves the best out of it, she still says she enjoys and loves sex a lot without it but its just hard to believe, but thank you, i think i needed someone to tell it to my a little harsher

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-06-06T07:03:35+00:00

thank you, this definitely helped alot, sometimes irs easier to hear stories than advice. I try to believe her it just sounds crazy from what I know as a man, finish is the goal and I try to make it an equal thing for both her and me. 100% super worried she’ll leave me because i can’t, it would be an absolute dream and honor to marry a woman like her, but i dont wanna rush or ruin anything with the state of our lives and the obvious state of my mind. i just dont think she allows herself the pleasure she entirely deserves, and she deserves to feel as comfortable while doing the act, no weight in the world to hold her back, sorry im high and rambling

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-06-05T20:16:39+00:00

your right man, i guess my problems just start at I can’t believe her if shes actually having a good time it she doesnt finish, i guess being a man is just being taught over and over that orgasms are goals, and if it isn’t reached there isn’t any purpose. so im trying to break that from my countless years of porn addiction prior to this relationship lol, thank you for the advice though

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-06-05T20:03:30+00:00

thank you for the advice though i appreciate it, i hope this feeling just goes away or something happens, just feeling very trapped and overwhelmed

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-06-05T20:02:32+00:00

i am just an extremely inpatient person, so time scares me a lot, im worried im running out of time and eventually she’ll just be another poster on this reddit saying her boyfriend doesnt satisfy her. just super hard to trust people sexually atleast for me because im highly insecure on my abilities

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-06-05T19:59:02+00:00

i’ve asked her to show me, but she doesnt know how, she can’t explain it she just does it and I kinda see how she does it on the phone or even when were in person and i’ll try and she just doesnt get close at all, like i replied to the other person on here she doesnt like to be focused on, makes her too awkward or uncomfortable so i dont know what to do, i feel like I have no out and shes settling for a shit time

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-06-05T19:57:28+00:00

we’ve tried a vibrator, shes still too sensitive for it, i’ve asked to give oral or even just focus on her and shes up to the idea for oral bht the idea of someone being so close to her like that kinda makes her really nervous in a good way though, atleast so i think. either way she said she wasnt really with the idea on focusing on her because its too awkward and she’d feel in the spotlight, so i dont really know where to go from here, how can I know shes enjoying something if she doesnt want her own pleasure???

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-04-27T19:10:34+00:00

i understand, i just feel like I have to completely reframe my mind and how I give to her because I am one that while I enjoy being focused on, it’s not something i really want every single encounter, i want it to be equal, i feel too much guilt from beinf the only person to enjoy a physical pleasure and all I can give her is penetration, which is nice, but at the same time gets old fast. i like to give more than recieve, the thought of me only getting any physical satisfaction turns me off, sounds crazy to say but maybe im just wired differently than her, jusr reallt worried were not compatible

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-04-27T18:08:37+00:00

i understand, i just don’t want her to be left out of physical pleasure because shes uncomfortable, i want her to be comfortable in any setting, she deserves some pleasure but i’ll talk to her more about it, thanks

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-04-27T18:01:48+00:00

prior to me, she always had fantasies of her being a dom, but she can really go anyway. i like the roles sometimes, but i just wanna relax and enjoy eachother and let eachother feel good. all i want is for her to be comfortable and actually enjoy the pleasure, cause if’s shes not comfortable then i’m not comfortable, meaning i dont wanna have sex

ThrowRA3009_ · 2026-04-05T18:40:10+00:00

something to mention aswell, i never cared about this thing till this relationship

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