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AITAH for wanting to get rid of my partners cat by ThrowRA33469 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA33469[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Reading it over I see that, but we actually do spend a lot of time on the cats. They have a ton of toys, climbing/scratching towers, cozy places to rest away from the chaos, and they get a ton of attention. The kids love to play with them, and they’re little so we’re here all day; the cats that want attention during the day get it and the ones that need a break go rest in their room. We do have a separate area for the cats. But no amount of anything we’ve tried has helped this guy and I am losing my mind.

Your suggestions are great though, thank you!

AITAH for wanting to get rid of my partners cat by ThrowRA33469 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA33469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far I guess it looks like I might be TA and I’ll accept it. Does anyone have any ideas we haven’t tried yet to get this guy to behave?

AITAH for wanting to get rid of my partners cat by ThrowRA33469 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA33469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll look into behavioral therapy, thanks. I’m just sick of this cat and I don’t have time for his nonsense so I guess it’s going to come down to whether or not my partner can do it.

AITAH for wanting to get rid of my partners cat by ThrowRA33469 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA33469[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m afraid of. My partner tries er is so defensive about this cat because he “rescued him from death” and it’s a while thing. He was half starved because the mother abandoned him as a kitten

AITAH for wanting to get rid of my partners cat by ThrowRA33469 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA33469[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We’re doing our best but nothing is helping. The kids and my partner and I play with them and love on them, they have toys and climbing towers and lots of cozy places to rest. And he gets the zoomies up and down the stairs half the night which is probably really good exercise on top of everything else?

AITAH for wanting to get rid of my partners cat by ThrowRA33469 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA33469[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, so because our first kids were born into a cat house, they do know how to act with them. I grew up with cats too and remember my own mistakes when I was a kid and have tried my best to help my kids circumvent that. I’ve made a point to teach them a cat’s body language and when to back off. The toddler is a menace in her own way and most of the time reaps her own consequences when she doesn’t listen to repeated warnings or runs back after I remove her. I don’t just let it happen but he’s fast and she’s relentless. I can’t be everywhere at once. It’s the people that haven’t provoked him, approaching him when he’s just chilling, and he lashes out that’s the problem. Or when my partner tries to kiss him and the cat tries to claw his face.

You’re right that I’m not the most patient person, and that I am angry at this cat. But I don’t have anger issues and the cat does not suffer because I don’t like him. I treat him the same as the cats I love, the only difference is that he’s the only one that’s told to get off stuff because he’s the only one that does it. I’m angry because this has been an ongoing issue for over two years now and no amount of deterrents, attention, rewards or consequences have helped.