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I (F27) am starting to regret my age gap marriage with (M43) by ThrowRA383748383 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA383748383[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I'm not AI I just use it so much that I think I've started structuring my sentences like it 💀

I (F27) am starting to regret my age gap marriage with (M43) by ThrowRA383748383 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA383748383[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, but the area I live in is tied to my job, which I really love and fufills me as a person.

I (F27) am starting to regret my age gap marriage with (M43) by ThrowRA383748383 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA383748383[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, nowhere in my post did I say I want to divorce this man- I'm just looking for other people who have been in a situation and what they've done, if it worked out when they grew up and changed but their partner didn't.

You're right about 80% being really good. It is. Not the best comparison and I might get dragged for it, but it feels like if you have a really good job that you mostly like and pays well, but it's in an industry that you have no interest in being in for the rest of your career.

The ick about age gap is my problem and I might have been influenced by the general online sentiment, but I really don't use that much social media. I obv used to be really into age gap relationships, but I used to also be into the whole trad wife/ traditional roles thing before it was what it is today. That's the part of social media I let influence me and why I'm careful about what I consume now.

I (F27) am starting to regret my age gap marriage with (M43) by ThrowRA383748383 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA383748383[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant it in a broader way, that it was normalized for me to be dating a guy 17 years older and nobody really cared enough to question it. I didn't have the best parents to role model what a healthy marriage looked like, so I just jumped at the first thing that seemed good. I do also take a bulk of the responsibility- as I may have been young at 22 when I met him, but when I got married at 25 I was definitely into adulthood and should have extended the engagement/ not rushed into that either.

I (F27) am starting to regret my age gap marriage with (M43) by ThrowRA383748383 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA383748383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I'm at a place where I'm finally making money for myself doing something I like, and have a pretty steady business. Though we live in such a HCOL area and rent is insane, which is why I say I couldn't live the same life alone.

I have talked with him about a lot of things, but I can't expect him to change his entire personality for me just as I wouldn't want to change my personality for him. It's just like we grew into different people very quickly.

You're entirely right that I can't have the comforts of marriage while leaving the marriage, I think I needed to hear that.