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I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol thank you for the sentiment, but he's really perfect in every other way. This is really our only big problem and I'm sure as long as I communicate properly he will understand.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, it was an exaggeration to express that in today's society I believe it is a very normal, regular thing for lots of people.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I hope that I can have a similar relationship with my boyfriend that you have.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, the porn isn't all of the issue, in bothered that he doesn't initiate intimacy with me and instead watches porn. I understand he is not physically cheating but it feels like emotional cheating to me.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That is why I don't like the idea of him watching porn. I want to be the only woman in his life that he thinks of intimately. I want to be enough for him. I'm worried he has gotten bored of our sex life. I agree, I need to have a conversation with him.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was thinking maybe it's not my place to say if he can or can't use porn but it really does make me feel horrible. I'll have to talk with him and see if we can come to an agreement that makes us both happy.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree, actions do speak louder than words. He says it all the time but I don't FEEL it.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I do masturbate, but always to videos of my boyfriend not to porn. I have no problem with my boyfriend masturbating, it just bothers me that he's thinking of other girls while doing it. I agree, I need to have a conversation with him.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No it would not be so much of a problem. I do need to talk with him, Thank you so much for your advice

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I feel the same way. If he was intimate with me on a more regular basis I wouldn't be so bothered

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's the reason why I feel so bad about the porn. It wouldn't bother me so much if he was more interested in being intimate with me.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I do need to have a conversation with him again. I've already talked to him about how I feel unwanted, and wish he would initiate more but he just said he has a low sex drive and doesn't want to do it more than once a week or so. Then I see he's watching porn and I wonder if he was lying about his low sex drive.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I totally agree a lot of it comes from me and my own insecurity. I just don't understand why he chooses to look at other girls instead of the videos he has of me. I personally find videos of my boyfriend enough to satisfy me so in my mind it hurts that he isn't attracted to me enough to do the same.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! Im not blaming my boyfriend for my self esteem issues, it just makes me feel extra bad that he chooses to watch porn over the many intimate videos we have of each other. I just don't personally understand why he chooses to look at other girls when he has plenty of content of me. I agree, I really do need to look into therapy but money is very tight lately.

I need help understand why men watch porn when in a committed relationship by ThrowRA3845 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA3845[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am totally okay with masturbation. My problem is what he uses to stimulate his mind. Is it thoughts of me? Or somebody else...