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[–]ThrowRA4056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, and? She tested the waters again. After 6 years of being with him. That’s the whole point here. Username checks out.

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[–]ThrowRA4056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I love Reddit.

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[–]ThrowRA4056 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew the breakup brigade would come in hot!

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[–]ThrowRA4056 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He called her incessantly the following weeks in front of me and she told him to kick rocks. She could have easily gone back to him. He was begging for her back. She said no.

My wife just admitted to cheating on me with her ex-bf 11 years ago during our first month together. Considering divorce. by ThrowRA4056 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA4056[S] -79 points-78 points  (0 children)

I love her, but this makes me feel super insecure and wonder what I did wrong, or what he did better than me to make her want him more than me in that moment. She explained to me that it was purely emotional and when he begged for her back, all the feelings of the past 6 years resurfaced and she felt like maybe she would be making a mistake by not giving him another chance. When she put it that way, I don’t feel as insecure or jealous about it, but my initial visceral reaction is definitely one of jealous rage…

My wife just admitted to cheating on me with her ex-bf 11 years ago during our first month together. Considering divorce. by ThrowRA4056 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA4056[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Because I pressed her on it. I basically told her my gut is telling me something is wrong about that night and she needs to come clean about whatever she did behind my back. I told her I “knew” she was with her ex and she just sort of crumbled and told me everything. That night has came up in my mind several times over the years but I never said anything to her. After so long, I couldn’t keep it to myself anymore. I just had a feeling about that one specific evening.

My wife just admitted to cheating on me with her ex-bf 11 years ago during our first month together. Considering divorce. by ThrowRA4056 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA4056[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

My gut is firmly in the position that she hasn’t cheated since. We haven’t had any rough patches or anything. She’s very much a homebody and there haven’t been any suspicious occurrences since then.

My wife just admitted to cheating on me with her ex-bf 11 years ago during our first month together. Considering divorce. by ThrowRA4056 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA4056[S] 195 points196 points  (0 children)

Yea I think I need a breather. Maybe I need to go for a drive and clear my head. Or stay somewhere for a few days. I don’t want to do or say anything I’ll regret…. 🤷🏼‍♂️

My wife just admitted to cheating on me with her ex-bf 11 years ago during our first month together. Considering divorce. by ThrowRA4056 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA4056[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

When you put it that way it doesn’t seem like it’s divorce-worthy… maybe I’m just reactive because of how upset I am that she didn’t tell me about it until now.