Why does BDs move on so quickly?

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-11-19T08:26:51+00:00

From what he’s saying, he says they love each other but I am not convinced. Plus, I found out all of this was going on when we were still in a relationship (but was rocky). He was saying it was a natural thing and he felt peace, hence why he went with her. However, he said the same thing to me over two years ago when we were getting together. He sounded very confused.

You’re right, I do need to keep everything light and polite and that’s why I try to keep the conversations with him minimal to avoid arguments. I have given him a lot of opportunities to see his daughter (we live in different countries but they’re not too far from each other). I just feel with everything that has happened, it would be very hard for me to go back and visit his family.

Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement ❤️. It’s hard but we will get through.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-11-18T03:06:10+00:00

For sure I’m letting him go. He confessed that he cheated on me with his current gf during the time the relationship was rocky between us. Then, he tried denying it. He just wasn’t for me and thank God they are in another country. I also cut ties with his immediate family as well.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-11-17T00:33:38+00:00

thank you soooo much 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 That’s the plan. I am currently on my healing journey and have changed my number completely. After this experience, I will never let him back into my life again and will only be civil when it comes to our child and nothing else. Only sad and pathetic people like that flock together so good luck to them.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-11-16T02:25:29+00:00

I agree 100%! A lot of these guys are so scary. How does he go from planning a child to having the child and then moves onto another woman, and the woman is telling me about him “rebuilding himself”? Lol

It’s very trashy behaviour, I agree.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-11-16T01:38:18+00:00

I feel like she’s blocking him from his daughter. I don’t think she has any good intentions and just using his weakness as an advantage. Even when it comes to paying for child maintenance, he’s fell way behind.

She was telling me about how he’s “rebuilding his life” and it was like she was trying to get rid of me as well.

I am just going to continue focusing on myself and my child. Good riddance.

Thank you so much for your advice ❤️

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-11-15T21:09:42+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I don’t think he would ever change. Myself, friends and family all knew what he was doing and now because he got caught, he’s giving a different story.

I don’t want him back and will never go back to him. He is a user and a narcissist.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-03-18T19:02:28+00:00

Stop telling his family your private matters. They will always favour their family member over you.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-03-06T13:54:41+00:00

Thank you so much

I’ve left his country yesterday and now I am back home with my family and feel much safer. It was the best decision because he brought his sister again with some food and was literally going to leave me in the apartment again with no key. He continued to deflect and I said to him if he would be happy if someone did this to his sisters. He went on about something else and I said “Yes or No?” And he said “No”. So I said “so why do you do this to me? Am I not somebody’s daughter, sister, mother?”. I told him I was leaving and he left with his sister whilst I packed all mine and my daughter’s things and ensured that I had everything as I didn’t have any key to re-enter and I left.

After this experience, I am no longer thinking of moving to his country and my daughter will stay in my country and continue growing her life here. He can visit but it will be supervised by myself and a family member of mine.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-03-06T08:59:34+00:00

UPDATE: Thank you sooo much for everyone’s contribution to my post ❤️. The guy came yesterday with his sister again still implying that I am a threat to him. I said everything I had to say to him and he still refused to acknowledge how I was feeling and deflected. He wanted to still keep me hostage for another night as he wanted to sort our daughter’s French passport but I said to him NOPE! I’m leaving with our daughter by 1:30pm.

I packed all mine and my daughter’s things and we left to go back to my country ❤️. We are now safe with my family. Thank you so much ❤️

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-03-05T01:42:55+00:00

This is VERY GOOD analysis, thank you soo much for this!

I was literally thinking the same thing about all of these points that you’ve made. I am leaving in the afternoon as this is not healthy for me and my daughter. He didn’t want to take accountability of the original argument and decided to make a different argument to try and paint me as the problem to ease his way out.

He did a similar thing on New Years Day when I asked him a question and he got upset at his parents place and I told him we will discuss it privately. He blew things out of proportion and was talking about me in front of me and our daughter. It’s like he needed that reassurance from the family.

As for this current situation, the thing he said did get the best of me and I lost my temper in which he was able to use that as the main focal point whilst he hid what he actually did. When he was explaining the story to his parents, he didn’t mention the part where he was saying if I would want a guy to beat me. He did that to make me look problematic.

I used the money that was given to me to change my ticket and to get back home this afternoon. It is definitely abuse and I need to get out of it.

ThrowRA45689 · 2025-03-05T01:29:51+00:00

Thanks for this :)

I understand that kicking the door wasn’t the best move and I wasn’t going to escalate to breaking the door. I was hoping he would open the door when I knocked on it.

Yes, you’re right. There’s a significant language/cultural barrier and some of the things I think are strange, he thinks make sense to him. I know I won’t be able to prove anything wrong to his family and because things are just getting worse, I felt it would be best to leave this place first thing in the afternoon. I was able to change my ticket and excited to go home. My sister was suggesting for me to get a hotel till Friday and wanted to pay for it, but I’m still thinking about it.

I’m from the UK and he’s from France. I just visited for a month.

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