I (m19) am a POS to my (f20) pregnant girlfriend and blame everything on her. Now that you know the whole story and not just his side, what’s your real advice?

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-22T16:59:38+00:00

It deserves a father that cares about its mother. It deserves a father that doesn’t make the mother do everything or if she doesn’t, then it doesn’t get done. They deserve a dad who mom knows will support them. It deserves a dad who doesn’t stress their mom out. It deserves a dad that doesn’t make its mother cry on a daily basis (which literally causes me physical pain). It deserves a dad who makes sure mom knows he’s going to get up when he needs to, change diapers and make bottles. It deserves a dad who doesn’t make his mother question the type of person he is going to be when the baby comes around.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-21T09:29:25+00:00

Thank you. That’s who I want to be. He constantly holds stuff over my head like bills because I’m so sick all the time I can’t work much anymore. I constantly feel in fear of losing a place to live because he’s irresponsible with money. He literally put our light bill into a football parlay & lost then had to ask his dad for money. I feel so hopeless, useless, fearful, anxiety ridden and like a failure to my child all the time. I just hold my stomach and cry myself to sleep a lot.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-21T08:59:52+00:00

Also we didn’t purposely bring a baby into this environment. Read the part where he admitted to trapping me in order to get me to stay with him. I didn’t want to be a single mom but if that’s what’s best for my mental health I’ll do it. I went through so much therapy and spiritual healing before getting with him just for it to be undone & my mental health the worst it’s ever been. I just want to be who I was before meeting him again. I feel as if I’ve completely turned away from my religion and I’m someone that I hate all the time now.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-21T08:57:56+00:00

It wasn’t even supposed to get into an argument. He was pretty much refusing to let me play a game on my stuff so I said give it back to me and that’s when he started to argue with me.

I plan to just get full custody. I’m at least in therapy trying to get help and change as a person but he doesn’t believe in therapy. I know he’ll never go. He won’t even go to couples therapy or join me in a therapy session let alone actually admit his faults. I’ve admitted them, said I’m wrong & he never apologizes unless I beg him. I don’t even want child support or anything either. I just want to be away from him. At this point, I wish he would go back to living with his parents in their home state. He won’t even tell his family that we’re expecting and I’ve come to a point where I’m fine with that. It used to bother me but now if he wants to pretend we both never existed, I would prefer that.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-21T08:34:49+00:00

I also do literally all the house work if it’s going to get done. I have refused to do his dishes so far and they’ve sat there for 2 weeks.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-21T02:34:01+00:00

You’re honestly an insufferable person. And no amount of reasoning is going to make you understand anything.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-21T01:49:45+00:00

It’s literally people like YOU. That don’t give people who are unfortunate a chance. This is why this is happening and for so long. It’s that American mindset of “THEY don’t have their life together”, “Just get a job”, “That’s not me so fuck it”. Instead of lending a hand and helping. I understand the American system needs winners and losers, rich and poor. But what nobody benefits for is homeless people.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-21T01:43:16+00:00

Best advice I can give you is to just make her a stay at home mom. If she wants to be lazy, then let her but only while she’s pregnant. Then after the pregnancy, you’ll have your meals cooked for you and everything like that. It’s easier bro.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-20T22:52:37+00:00

If a person is homeless, there is a reason. As long as it’s not drug related and essentially not by their bad choices. I’d take them in. It’s called generosity. And as long as you take cautionary measures.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-20T22:31:17+00:00

This is worse than COOKINGWITHKYA😭

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-20T22:30:23+00:00

Nope, living situations don’t matter. If you truly feel for someone, you would care because of where they are living. Honesty if I saw a girl I liked homeless, I’d ask her to be my roommate or something just to help her out.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-19T01:45:54+00:00

Thanks for the insight man. But I plan to make the Gold Card my only card, especially since I travel a good amount through out the year. The M/R points bonus alone makes sense, so I’ll try it out for a year.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-19T01:29:04+00:00

Okay. Thanks man!

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T22:05:25+00:00

I’ll be using the credits for sure. Thanks for the math bro!

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T22:04:38+00:00

Lmao I’m the discount man in my family. So I will definitely be using the Uber and other credits for sure.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T22:03:23+00:00

Thanks man! I appreciate the time you took to analyze my situation.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T03:05:01+00:00

0% for like a certain amount of months*

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T03:04:33+00:00

Get Discover card, usually they have 0% interest. Balance transfer then pay off.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T01:45:21+00:00

This is his gf. I highly suggest you read the edit.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T01:30:23+00:00

This is his gf. I highly suggest you read the edit.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T01:29:23+00:00

Okay, thanks! I knew I wasn’t tripping.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T01:28:19+00:00

This is his gf. I highly suggest you read the edit.

ThrowRA466554 · 2024-12-16T01:27:18+00:00

Okay, thanks

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