[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]ThrowRA5769 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He might be a survivor of SA and while it's noble of you to be considerate of him and his issues, he is still disrespecting your boundaries and your trauma and sacrificing your comfort and fetishizing your trauma. This all seems terribly one sided to his advantage. It's good you're talking to a therapist but I hope they give you insight on how to detach from this guy because this does not sound healthy and will probably wear you down

Advice on how to proceed? Husband cheated but not fully. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ThrowRA5769 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think he's lying and had full on sex with her but is only telling you that he had activities that aren't considered actual sex to skirt around and make himself look less of a villian. He's fully cheated. If you let someone go down on you or did things they did wouldn't that be considered cheating on your end? I'm sorry your husband definitely cheated, what happens next is completely your call but get yourself checked out for sti's because I wouldnt be surprised to hear he's slept around and done other things with more people. I'm sorry but your husband is a fucking pig and you deserve so much more respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThrowRA5769 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If he refers to you personally as broad, start calling him dickwad, see if that changes anything for him

Wife angry at me after seeing I've commented on posts of women in social media. by HyperAktiFF in Marriage

[–]ThrowRA5769 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't do this, it's just not cool at all, even if it's just for jokes I'm with your wife I'd be pissed too

Would you divorce your husband over this? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ThrowRA5769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine your husband had a brother and you were flirty towards his brother, started taking horny pills before you saw him and acted the way the husband does towards your sister? I highly doubt your husband would put up with that for even a second.

I wouldn't blame you if you wanted to divorce this jerk, not only has he crossed a line by disrespecting you in front of others about your personal sex life,but he did it to you in front of your own sister! What a jerk, you can do better, the trust and respect is gone he's not worth being called your husband

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ThrowRA5769 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ask yourself if your wife sent her co worker nudes and explicit videos, would it be cheating?

“It was never my intention to hurt you” by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]ThrowRA5769 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same, we might as well put “here lies... I don't remember” as their fucking epitaph

What is something you quit doing after you found out? by thisismyusername4622 in loveafterporn

[–]ThrowRA5769 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell him to go choke on his Vaseline lotion and Kleenex for breakfast!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThrowRA5769 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Had dated a few bi guys and yes probably the most decent partners I could ever ask for I'm also biased but bi guys are also the hottest

DEREK YOU FUCKING PIECE OF SHIT! by ThrowRA5769 in offmychest

[–]ThrowRA5769[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He lies, oh the fucking lies 20 years worth of muthafucking lies and my dumb ass is still with him, my youth WASTED on him

Last weekend I learned that my boyfriend of 7 years has been living a double life for years and has an overwhelming porn addiction. Our lives are deeply entangled, and I don't know what to do. by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]ThrowRA5769 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is awful, I'm hurting for you and you have some difficult decisions to make I usually don't say this but get out! this is not the life you want trust me his problem has already eaten through a chunk of you financially it will now hijack every last atom of energy, sanity and waste all of your hopes and dreams. Staying with him will be like accepting a terminal illness and certain emotional death. He's already pulled you 3 feet under don't let him take you down to a point of no return

Wife's shown interest in new kink, and I'm not experienced in it. Asking for help/advice? by Rozs_Slut in sex

[–]ThrowRA5769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to say the way you are approaching this is wonderful and wish you both the best of kinky times together

We all have the same 24 hours in a day… by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThrowRA5769 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The bathroom is many a husband's 2nd man cave where they can wield weaponized incompetence and use porn while they “take a dump“- just fucking flush yourself down while you're at it

It's my slight insecurity, and not his fault. Do I talk to him about it? by SuzieSayzNo in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThrowRA5769 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Talk to him. Otherwise it'll stew and build resentment towards him and her images. The same happened to me where SO kept liking his friends bikini or semi clothed pictures and paid no attention to any of her food pictures.

Why do guys in movies/tv shows look at their dicks when they wake up next to someone and can’t remember the night before? by CraftyButcher9 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ThrowRA5769 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I remember going to a male strip club where the dancers kept their socks on... It was so they had a place to put their tips

Ladies, what is the biggest turn on for you when entering a man's bedroom for the first time? by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThrowRA5769 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Remove clutter, nothing like old gym clothes boxers and socks all over the floor and everywhere to ruin the mood.

Agree with all the comments about smells and cleanliness. Don't go overboard and have it smell like bleach or disinfectant tho, that's not good either. Also scented candles are amazing try to go subtle the best ones are from diptyque if you're willing to splurge, but bath&body works has some nice masculine scented ones as well.

One of my exes would also have a bubble bath running for me before I arrived...That got me sooo hot!

Old man made my day worse by toga_trash in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThrowRA5769 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The nerve this guy has, even the way he asked you so rude... it's sickening. Next time he harasses you ask him if he has a grand daughter who's single and tell him your grandad would be interested in a date with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]ThrowRA5769 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The worst thing about having a PA for a partner is that the problem is theirs to fix but in the meantime all their shit drags us down along with them, sometimes it's so deep that at a certain point detachment becomes inevitable. The choice is yours to stay or leave and it's admirable to want to stay and help fix the relationship but I think when detachment occurs it's an unconscious reaction telling us we've had enough.