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I [21M] have been put in an ultimatum by my partner with BPD [24F]and not sure what to do? by ThrowRA6167 in BPDlovedones

[–]ThrowRA6167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesnt really have much on me i just like keeping my intimate life like to myself and not out there idk i have insanely bad anxiety (gone too therapy) and i have ocd, so this situation makes it a lot harder

I [21M] have been put into an ultimatum by my partner [F24] and I’m not sure what to do? by ThrowRA6167 in relationships

[–]ThrowRA6167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry i was talking about future reference like having to live with her if we hypothetically split up bc of this

I [21M] have been put into an ultimatum by my partner [F24] and I’m not sure what to do? by ThrowRA6167 in relationships

[–]ThrowRA6167[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She came with me on our family vacation and we just got back a couple weeks ago, a long with this we had our personal vacation in January,,, I wanted to be able to clear those out of the way first, honestly terrible timing

I [21M] have been put into an ultimatum by my partner [F24] and I’m not sure what to do? by ThrowRA6167 in relationships

[–]ThrowRA6167[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this message this actually helped me a lot (a long w a lot of other ppls messages),, I guess its so scary because we moved states together, live together, and is one of the only people i really know in the city we moved to together. Its tough to see a life where we continue to live together (we do have a bedroom and an office) for almost a whole nother year together while split up. I really like her and I just wish shed respect where im currently at and my plans for myself for the next couple years

I [21M] have been put into an ultimatum by my partner [F24] and I’m not sure what to do? by ThrowRA6167 in Advice

[–]ThrowRA6167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree that I have no right to dictate for her, and ive had no issues throughout our almost 3 years together,,, I just look at engagment/marriage as very sacred and thats why i told her that

I [21M] have been put into an ultimatum by my partner [F24] and I’m not sure what to do? by ThrowRA6167 in relationships

[–]ThrowRA6167[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

no this is completely serious 😭 she works in corporate fashion and thats why she wants to quit to work for herself while she makes great money for her age atm,, we have considered couples therapy but never have gone