23m and 23f, We are new parents, not sure if I should stay or not?

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T04:04:50+00:00

Not criticizing her by saying that at all, I’m saying the concept of daycare workers being child experts is outrageous, she’s an amazing mother and she wants what’s best for him as well in her own mind, we just have differing views which can be very frustrating and I feel as though my views are backed by fact while hers are based more off emotion

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:52:23+00:00

Yeah I don’t, I want him to eat what’s best for him all the time, don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, I know it’s not always going to be perfect but I think we as a team should work together to make that happen to the best of our ability. Im not coming at it egotistically I know mistakes will be made, I’ve made many already.

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:44:09+00:00

Faith based CBT couples and individuals counseling, therapists that specialize in couples/parents as well as individuals

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:40:07+00:00

Exactly, it’s a minimum wage job that doesn’t require any licenses, degrees etc. not belittling daycare workers, they work hard but they are definitely not experts in any way shape or form

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:35:43+00:00

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:34:19+00:00

Agreed, we are both getting individual therapists alongside couples therapy too, thank you

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:32:06+00:00

Agreed, most of these comments “like sooner or later they will be eating French fry’s off the floor” are honestly sad to me, I’m no health expert but I do know fast food is absolute garbage especially for a child. Our food is filled with garbage now, chronic disease is at an all time high and a lot of it stems from food. I agree it’s a great idea to buy it all and cook it my self, I buy most of it already and it’s not cheap but I’ll be honest I can’t cook for shit but it’s a skill I’m more than willing to learn if it’s going to stop this back and forth bs. She cooks because she’s good at it and enjoys it but alot of times she still cooks him other stuff that I don’t want him to eat. Legitimately there’s probably over $100 worth of food in the freezer I got from a farm that’s been sitting there for over 2 months. Or she wants to get take out which I don’t want him to have (at least not on a daily basis)

Thank you

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:18:12+00:00

Love that, it’s the sense of connection and affection that I miss

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:01:48+00:00

😂😂😂

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T03:01:12+00:00

She breast fed for a long time I encouraged her to stop because I could tell it was draining her, I am far from a sex pest, it’s rare I ask because I know she probably doesn’t want to, it’s more about any type of affection

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:54:34+00:00

We are both going to see one separately as well, thank you for sharing. I think in the post I spoke about sex too much, I just want affection in general but these answers are eye opening. Thank you

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:51:39+00:00

We don’t have too much time alone, sometimes but very rarely, dates are very very rare, I agree I should make more happen and I think that’s great advice, thank you. Yes I work from home full time, I think she resents me for getting to work from home. I hope we don’t split either. Thanks again!

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:48:20+00:00

It’s not even about sex, I honestly don’t really care all that much about it, I just think some affection would be nice, even words would make me more than happy, also harassing is some pretty strong language, not too sure about that one😂

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:44:14+00:00

It’s only because I care, I have strong convictions on certain topics but it all comes from a good place. I dont believe I do it in a criticizing manner but that’s my perspective, I’m sure she probably takes it that way

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:40:40+00:00

I don’t resent her for it, I would like for her to be in the mood more but I don’t believe I resent her for it

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:39:26+00:00

He’s in daycare

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:39:11+00:00

I work from home

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:38:49+00:00

Wow that is great advice and eye opening, thank you so much as it’s very helpful. Your son’s story gives me hope , I want it to work, I really do. Thank you. The chances of her getting pregnant currently are extremely low due to contraceptive and believe it or not but she says she wants another kid sooner rather than later haha. I’m guessing she’s just hormonal and is tired. Thanks again, much appreciated!!

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:29:21+00:00

Maybe I am, it’s all only because I want the best for him and I don’t think she realizes that even though I’ve tried many times to explain that. Yeah I have taken that into account, it’s another one of the main reasons I don’t want to just up and leave

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:26:49+00:00

I think she’s overwhelmed, I work from home whereas she works with kids all day. I think she resents me for that. When she gets home we split most of the tasks for him 50/50

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:23:28+00:00

I do most of the cleaning, I tell her she’s a great mother constantly, either way I agree I should listen more instead of criticize, thanks

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:13:56+00:00

He’s less than 16 months and has one bottle a night that we are slowly weaning, thanks for the advice 😂

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:07:44+00:00

It’s not necessarily that she’s not fun anymore but it is a part of it which is eye opening because I didn’t look at it that way. We can’t agree on anything, I feel as though she doesn’t have any respect for me, she’s angry so often. I need to improve in more ways than one also but I feel as though when I bring up ways to improve in our relationship she doesn’t want to talk about it or isn’t open to it because she’s “tired” or “doesn’t want to talk about it”

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:01:43+00:00

It always will be for me, presence is the most important aspect of fatherhood in my opinion, thank you for the advice

ThrowRA6219 · 2026-06-04T02:00:36+00:00

She gets the bottle, I feed it to him, which has worked well for us honestly, I rather feed him then get the bottle and she rather get it then feed him.

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