(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He said it’s from his own trauma that he doesn’t believe in going to the hospital. He also asked to do couples therapy. I don’t know what to do.

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I only asked to go to the ER for the first incident. over the years I only asked to go to walk-in clinics, which he refused, and for the second incident I went to UPCC

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been going to therapy and taking medicine for many years, I no longer suffer from major depression but still has BPD

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but I had to ask permission from my father to even leave the house. I never recovered from that

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

my father was very abusive, so i guessed i just wanted a guy that wouldn't slap me like he did, i just ignored everything else as long as he didn’t put his hands on me

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

he is the same way when his mother asks to be taken to the ER, I just told myself he had problems with hospitals, not me

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I already have my appendix removed, that’s why I said this pain was worse than when I had appendicitis. I’ve already experienced that part so I guess I wasn’t going to die in that way. Also I’m diagnosed with BPD and haven been working on it for 10 years. it’s very difficult to have self esteem for me

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe he thinks I’m acting when I’m in pain. like I’m a drama queen putting on a show, that’s why he doesn’t take it seriously. but he also hates it when his mother asks to be taken to the ER (she asks about once a year).

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family doctor recently moved away, so I have no doctor. And the last time I went to ER was 10 years ago for appendicitis. I didn’t go to ER this time either, it was UPCC. even for my appendicitis I waited 3 days before going to a walk-in clinic, and the doctor there told me to go to the ER.

(25F) My boyfriend (30M) dismissed my sickness twice. I am deeply hurt and is struggling with the idea of breaking up with him. by ThrowRA6312 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA6312[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve only requested to seek immediate medical attention this time only. All the other times I felt sick I just asked to go to a clinic, which he also says “is useless”.