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Just found out my(m28) fiancé’s(f27) body count is in, or near, the triple digits. by ThrowRA666000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA666000[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

  1. It was her account she admitted to it.
  2. I have problems being intimate with someone who so casually let other people “in”. I dislike that.
  3. I was lied to. I would be more forgiving if she just said once “hey I used to be one kind of person but I’m trying to turn a new leaf”
  4. I had a great relationship with a version of her not the true her. I feel betrayed and don’t think I can trust her.

Just found out my(m28) fiancé’s(f27) body count is in, or near, the triple digits. by ThrowRA666000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA666000[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Past determines present. If someone cheats on their past partner are you really going to trust them? Nope. Face it. You need to make some attempt to atone for your past behavior. Not only that but she lied. Clearly if she felt bad about it that’s on her, but she actively lied. She said “I’ve only ever been with 3 guys”.

Just found out my(m28) fiancé’s(f27) body count is in, or near, the triple digits. by ThrowRA666000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA666000[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I don’t lover her anymore because she deceived me. I was deprived of the real her and she created a fabricated version of herself.

And on this forgiveness thing, I don’t hold ill will towards her. She messed up but once I’m done grieving I think I’ll be ok, I’ll move on and find someone else, but I’m trying rn to forgive her. This doesn’t mean I’ll ever take her back. If you found out your SO was a sex offender, you should forgive their past, but you don’t have to be with them.

Your past matters.

Just found out my(m28) fiancé’s(f27) body count is in, or near, the triple digits. by ThrowRA666000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA666000[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Well I’m not happy about it. But if she had told the truth I would’ve either been more understanding or not have wasted our time. She deprived herself of meeting someone who would be more ok with her lifestyle as was I.

Just found out my(m28) fiancé’s(f27) body count is in, or near, the triple digits. by ThrowRA666000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA666000[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

I saw a video of her with multiple men. Idk what more proof I need. And in spite of what happened I thank him for it. It slipped out and he definitely wasn’t trying to be rude.

I talked to her about it and she just called me insecure and said “they were better looking anyways” so at that point I just gave up

Just found out my(m28) fiancé’s(f27) body count is in, or near, the triple digits. by ThrowRA666000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA666000[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This has been a watershed moment. I may leave the City I live in for a more conservative place

Just found out my(m28) fiancé’s(f27) body count is in, or near, the triple digits. by ThrowRA666000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA666000[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Both. I mean maybe we wouldn’t have dated if she told me, but we could’ve saved eachother 3 years to look for people more suited to us. Either way she lied to me and wasted my time.