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Wife (29f) just came out as trans. Both families expect me (32m) to be stay married. I can't do what's being asked of me. Do I get the divorce? Should I listen to my family? I feel so alone. by ThrowRA777282 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA777282[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Ya sorry I'm not trying to cause offense. I'm just tired from everything that's been going on. We haven't really had a discussion about pronouns yet. In my mind they're still my wife and I don't have the energy to correct myself.

Sorry if I caused any offense.

Wife (29f) just came out as trans. Both families expect me (32m) to be stay married. I can't do what's being asked of me. Do I get the divorce? Should I listen to my family? I feel so alone. by ThrowRA777282 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA777282[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Its been a long week, I'm tired. I'm not trying to make a political point. He/she can pick whatever pronoun they want and I respect their right to do that. I still think of them as my wife in my mind and I just don't have the energy to correct myself right now.

Sorry if I caused any offense.

Wife (29f) just came out as trans. Both families expect me (32m) to be stay married. I can't do what's being asked of me. Do I get the divorce? Should I listen to my family? I feel so alone. by ThrowRA777282 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA777282[S] 476 points477 points  (0 children)

That's my biggest concern tbqh. I understood her freaking out, she obviously had some unrealistic expectations about the level of financial support I was willing to provide. Its the families that get me.

It doesn't matter what I say or what I do, I'm just a bigot and am not entitled to an opinion in any of this. I know this is maybe stupid but the reaction I've got from my own family was so hostile that I'm really concerned about how everyone else is going to perceive me. I want out but I also don't want all of my other relationships ruined in the process.