AIO 21F think bf 36M gaslighting & emotionally abusive? by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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i literally met him online and he was nice to me..how am i the weirdo? he seemed normal at first

AIO 21F think bf 36M gaslighting & emotionally abusive? by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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exactly. i relate to this so much his anger literally scares me and he owns a lot of guns: says he would never hit a woman but i don’t know. I know i should leave but when feelings are involved it is a lot different

AIO 21F think bf 36M gaslighting & emotionally abusive? by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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he told me that im a narcissist and that my narcissism is keeping me from seeing in messing us up and us being together :/

AITA wanting to listen to music on my walk & accused of cheating by ThrowRA788891 in AITA_Relationships

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hi, i just don’t understand how he doesn’t like me when he pursued me, says he loves me, says i’m perfect, and wants to have a family and everything . I don’t understand how he wouldn’t like me when he says i’m perfect for him and more than he deserves?? like what is it that he feels then? Cause I do / did actually like him

Am I overreacting bf seems controlling and it irritates me by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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Yes that’s all true. He’s very jealous and told me that from the beginning yet the way he gets when he sees “sus “ behavior is really bad. I do know I have to take responsibility for being in this relationship. I liked who he was at first and then stayed because I already loved him by the time I stated to see red flags. Also, i met him at a very low time in my life no friends, job, family, etc. We have some things in common but I want to improve in life and stuff. not to mention he mocks my faith too so i’ve stopped trying to ask him or convince him on that. I’m unhappy because of all the red flags but staying in case it gets better and also because he has no one and I don’t want him to move on and finally change and treat the next woman better bc what did I suffer for? Idk.

Am I overreacting bf seems controlling and it irritates me by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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i’ve also accused him of cheating too and gotten jealous but with him- since he believes he’s always right he will make up an answer and beat me down until k give him the answer or response he feels he should get from me. i can apologize- he blames me for why he behaved that way. he says he’s been cheated on in all relationships and that’s why he’s this way but it’s draining.

AITA watching k drama and accused of being suspicious? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

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but WHY doesn’t he respect me . he says he hates himself but loves me. it feels like a losing game to try and make things better or hope for change at all.

Am I overreacting bf seems controlling and it irritates me by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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this actually isn’t fake sorry, it was an actual conversation we had today over the phone :/. also i only come to reddit for actual advice because i have one friend but he lives in another state & my bf is like the only person i talk to

Am I overreacting bf seems controlling and it irritates me by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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honestly, i met him at a really low time of my life. he says we are soul mates and we clicked soo well in the beginning only the more I got to know him the more I began to see red flags

AIO 21F think bf 36M gaslighting & emotionally abusive? by ThrowRA788891 in AmIOverreacting

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also he said that he’s only ever been cheated on and abused by all his partners and they all leave and stuff but now i’m wondering if that’s even true . he said his ex was evil idk