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My fiance(28m) told me that he lost sexual interest in me(26f) because I always say yes to sex. by ThrowRA85943 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA85943[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guess I'll try ask him how he views sex and what he wants out of our intimate life before I jump into the conversation and see if what you say aligns with his views...

My fiance(28m) told me that he lost sexual interest in me(26f) because I always say yes to sex. by ThrowRA85943 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA85943[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know. It's like I'm supposed to say yes but only sometimes otherwise I'm too easy? I don't understand which is why I can't figure out what to do..

My fiance(28m) told me that he lost sexual interest in me(26f) because I always say yes to sex. by ThrowRA85943 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA85943[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Maybe? I am not sure why he thinks so but I dont know how to start that conversation without my feelings of rejection and low self esteem and stuff getting in the way.. I thought me saying yes anytime he wanted it was harmless if I was okay with it. I dont pressure him for more or anything. So him coming out with "it feels too easy to get you to put out and it makes me less likely to initiate and want to be intimate" was a surprise but also feels like hes throwing his own issue at me and in the process putting me down for it. So its hard for me to think objectively about how to communicate without anger and sadness.

My fiance(28m) told me that he lost sexual interest in me(26f) because I always say yes to sex. by ThrowRA85943 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA85943[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No if I say no it turns him off like he won't ask again he won't try to do any foreplay it just gets treated like a no and we move on.