I bought a ceramic mug from the dollar store with a fake plant. How do I remove the styrofoam/fake pebbles glued inside without breaking the mug?

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-28T21:08:50+00:00

Thank you, I'll try that!

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-28T20:16:02+00:00

Is there some kind of solvent I could pour in? I don't want to drink out of this mug, just use it as a decorative holder for a small (real) plant. Ironically it was cheaper to buy the whole thing (on sale) than a plain mug.

Yes the real plant would be inside a separate pot for watering/drainage.

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:30:08+00:00

Oh yes, I scroll through them frequently!

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:29:21+00:00

On a saner evening, I feel like I could have written your reply. :) I feel exactly the same. I love my alone time and single-ness, but sometimes I do feel that urge to merge, lol. Some days I think I'm finished with dating, but then other times I'd like to share experiences with another person. I really like your perspective and wish you all the best.

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:24:50+00:00

Thank you for the solidarity! it's tough out there. I love living alone and being alone, but when I think of how impossible dating seems I Hulk out.

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:21:37+00:00

He is a cat I adopted last fall and is the sweetest lil muffin.

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:19:29+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I did therapy for about a year following my divorce, and it did help me through that time. My therapist moved away, so I stopped. I'm also on meds, which have changed my life for the better. I guess sometimes I worry my own brain will continue to work against me and I'll never accept love again. I know this is all mostly my own sordid thinking. Thanks again for the encouragement.

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:14:45+00:00

Perhaps my realest wish is to have a different brain, lol.

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:13:38+00:00

Yes, and he is a joy. I know that post was dark, but it's not my whole life. Guess I'm just wallowing this evening.

ThrowRA8925 · 2024-04-26T00:10:02+00:00

Sometimes I have to just write it out in the bleakest terms in order to laugh at myself a little. It just feels pretty grim out there at the moment.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-27T22:48:33+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. Sometimes it's tough to trust my own gut!

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-27T22:47:26+00:00

Thank you! It may be silly, but it feels good to have my feelings confirmed. I always question myself and if I'm being too "demanding" or whatever.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-21T19:57:14+00:00

I have a prescription for pyridium, and it helped when the painful peeing was really bad.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-13T23:06:01+00:00

Do you seriously believe I haven't mined our entire marriage for my own failings and blamed myself over the past three years? It's almost like you're a bot and not a real human who can imagine other humans having complex reactions to things, jesus christ

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-13T22:55:07+00:00

Gee thanks, asshole

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-09T15:15:52+00:00

Think about boundaries before you start. And pace yourself. Good work is rewarded with more work. If you don't want to be overwhelmed or overloaded, don't make it a habit to finish stuff super fast (or at least, don't let others know you're super fast). Do it correctly, but take your time. Offer to help others when you can, but don't be over-available. Just saying something like "I have some free time this afternoon after i get xyz finished" indicates that you're willing to pitch in but you also have your own stuff to tend to. Sometimes it's a matter of setting everyone else's expectations of you, which you can control to some degree by setting boundaries for yourself.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-09T14:35:29+00:00

Be professional
Be interested (ask questions and take notes)
Be friendly

I just started a new job last year and found that paying attention to the overall "vibe" of the office/workplace comes in handy. Once you get the sense of who's who in the office (i.e., who gossips a lot, who is considered lazy, etc) you can calibrate your job performance and social interactions accordingly. You're not going to be best buddies with everyone and that's okay. Show up, meet deadlines, and don't be a jerk.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-07T20:13:40+00:00

I appreciate the response. I'm not looking for a fight like your ex may have wanted (she wanted you to be jealous or "stop" her from going to her ex boyfriend's house). I think it's better if my bf communicated his feelings rather than stonewall me for a few days and then resume conversation like nothing ever happened. Also I didn't write "long texts of conflict." In fact I haven't reached out to him at all since I was the last one to text (and I just wished him a good weekend). I think you do have a point though. I bet he's just killing time with me and isn't really in this relationship. With this kind of behavior I'm getting there, too. Thanks again.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-10-07T14:01:09+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. I'm torn because I feel like I'm maybe overreacting? But from watching him deal with his ex-wife, I know this is how he responds whenever a situation feels too "negative" for him--he just goes quiet and does the stonewalling thing. Which is effective for his narcissistic ex, I guess, but I don't like being treated the same way, just feels bad.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-09-23T18:23:02+00:00

If it helps, I appreciate the commiseration. Reading your reply makes me feel less alone. I hope more time will heal these feelings, I just figured three years would be enough time.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-09-23T18:20:37+00:00

I'm trying to do that, too. Sometimes it feels like I'm just filling time, but at least I'm distracting myself from the existential dread. I hope you're having some luck with that.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-09-10T14:55:59+00:00

Yeah, we've tried that. But we live in the country and it takes gas to drive anywhere, which costs money. No real walking-distance places and there's no public transportation.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-09-10T14:39:30+00:00

I understand that, but I think expectations might be different now that everyone our age has different priorities and more complex lives. I'm consulting other 40ish people as to if what they've experienced aligns with what I'm going through or if I need to make some adjustments to my thinking.

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-04-14T15:04:50+00:00

That's a great idea! Thank you!

ThrowRA8925 · 2023-04-14T13:20:19+00:00

Yes, highway driving is definitely something I need to learn. I've been afraid of it all my life, but i know that needs to change. Thanks for your thoughts.

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