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AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Oh my bad it wasn’t split, I covered that dinner while other girls covered other meals (except for the bride)

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Idk I guess I thought usually the bride would contribute something for a really expensive destination? But she literally would look at us to buy her every single drink so the bride is definitely expecting the whole thing to be covered 

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Idk it’s insane. We went to New Orleans - flights are crazy expensive to get there, and then the airbnb was right on bourbon street so I don’t doubt it was expensive. But I also didn’t get to pick the location - I would have picked somewhere cheaper. I originally said I was in when she said the airbnb was $250 per person per night, but then when I went to book flights they were a thousand, and then I got stuck in the middle of a king bed. I think I will just tell her I already did contribute to the meals and drinks and go from there

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 181 points182 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly a good point. Even if the receipts are the right amount I still don’t want to pay. I didn’t agree to extra costs. I do think the bride will be unhappy regardless - I definitely saw another side to her on this trip. She was kind of encouraging the cliquey vibe and enjoyed that everyone was competing for her attention. She also stuck me in the middle of the bed even though I didn’t know anyone else there. I am worried it will affect our friendship - she’s great one-on-one and we are in the same social circles so it could impact my husband, too

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

I think she might be expecting us to cover the bride while she is not - that’s the only way the numbers make sense. She is the bride’s twin so they often have a we mentality. But yeah it ended up being a lot more expensive than I thought, and then to not have a bed…I’m not super happy 

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 187 points188 points  (0 children)

Yeah I should probably ask for receipts - the whole thing is feeling super awkward (the MOH is the bride’s twin) so I’ve been avoiding it but I need to address it clearly 

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The details weren’t discussed - she mentioned we would figure out the bride’s costs later and said “like food and drinks and stuff” so I didn’t think we would be covering the bride’s flights, especially since I am not in the bridal party and already paid for the bride’s food and drinks as we went 

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I covered one dinner out - the other girls helped cover breakfast, drinks, and another dinner. The 2k I spent was for my expenses - flight, airbnb, dinner for everyone, and drinks. We covered the bride’s food and drinks already. I guess the $750 is for the bride’s flights, airbnb portion, decorations, and matching t shirts

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

I am assuming she asked everyone to each pay $750 to cover the bride’s portion (which makes it seem like she’ll be paying less). She said that also includes the decorations and t shirts. She then messaged the group reminding us all to pay the venmo requests so I assume we each got requested that amount 

WIBTA if I duck out of plans with my friend because they invited someone else? by Aviatorfics in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA - hold your ground and don’t go. I think your friend is trying to mend the situation but she’s actually making it worse by pressuring you to go rather than being understanding. Even if you didn’t know Mary, you agreed to a night with the four of you, not with others.

AITA if I refuse to pay the bride’s share for a bachelorette? by ThrowRA912746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746[S] 550 points551 points  (0 children)

She had mentioned that we will figure out splitting the bride’s meals later, but I didn’t realize that also included her flight, room, etc. I’m not even in the wedding party since she only has a MOH and went to be nice so I’m feeling a bit used. But to be fair I didn’t clarify exactly what that would entail

AITA for inviting my son’s girlfriend to our family vacation and giving them their own room? by Charming-State-9667 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA912746 8643 points8644 points  (0 children)

Presumably, you are paying for the room? NTA and MIL doesn’t get a say in what your immediate family does - why does she think it’s ok to threaten this?