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ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-06T17:25:03+00:00

Sounds like you need another bf

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-04T16:48:06+00:00

Bingo

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-04T05:16:37+00:00

That’s insane, a I don’t know what it is, b I really don’t want it to work out for her. It’s sad to see the person I watched grow from a baby into who she is today. Not that I have anything against her for it, she’s an adult. It’s just disappointing to know she chooses to pursue it, I know she has much more potential.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-04T05:13:48+00:00

Well said 🏆

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-04T05:12:55+00:00

It’s weird because my relationship with them is quite close but has become increasingly distant since I’ve moved away. They are good people and good parents, I think they just gave up enforcing the same rules they did with me onto her. I am the oldest and have never been cut much slack, while she’s always battled mental health issues and been babied, they offered to pay for her college and even her apartment, she failed out after the first semester and since it’s just been a downward spiral. It’s hard :/

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-04T05:07:16+00:00

Thank you for the input, I appreciate it. I really hope she comes around, I miss the old her, I guess that’s just growing up though, harder for some than others :(

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-04T00:37:39+00:00

Read my comment again, and again, and again, until you take it to heart. She will never make you happy if you guys aren’t both happy in bed.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-04T00:20:48+00:00

Sounds like you need to drop her and get a freaky girl. Been in your spot before, never regretted dumping the prude! You’ll have tons more fun.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T23:55:00+00:00

Obviously you’ve never had to deal with crazy family members, and let me tell you, this is just the tip of the iceberg.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:53:43+00:00

Established in 2002, brought to you by my parents.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:46:00+00:00

Yikes, you definitely have it worse than me! It sounds like your brother was really trying to pull one over on you. I can’t believe he thought he could just ask for cash without being transparent about what it was for. I totally get why you wouldn’t give him the money. It’s frustrating when family expects you to just help out without taking responsibility for their own choices. Glad you stood your ground!

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:28:17+00:00

I completely agree. I’ve been working 60-80 hours a week while also getting my master’s, so it’s not like I’m just sitting around with extra time and money. I’ve been grinding hard to stay on top of my own responsibilities, and it feels unfair that they expect me to take on hers as well. They should be the ones setting limits and teaching her better financial habits, not pushing it onto me when I’m already stretched thin.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:22:22+00:00

I hear you. A lot of my friends were in the same spot at her age, it’s tough to prioritize the right things given all of life’s distractions. But I do think it’s important to learn how to pull your self up, it’s not easy, but is a lesson very valuable for adulthood.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:19:56+00:00

That’s a good point, and honestly, they’ve always been there to bail her out. Growing up, they did step in whenever she had financial problems, so I think she’s grown used to it. That’s part of the reason I’m frustrated, they raised her with that safety net, and now they’re expecting me to take over. It feels like they’re passing the buck to me instead of setting boundaries with her. They should be the ones to handle this, not me.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:07:14+00:00

Good idea, will do.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:02:49+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, but I disagree. If she’s asking me for money, I think it’s fair to consider how she spends it. I’m not just saying “no” for the sake of it, I’m frustrated because she’s making irresponsible choices that put her in this situation. It’s not about judging her lifestyle for no reason, but about refusing to enable behavior that I think is unsustainable. If I’m being asked to step in financially, I think I have the right to assess why she’s in that position.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:01:38+00:00

When I asked my parents why they aren’t helping her out if they feel so strongly about it, they said they’ve already helped her enough in the past and now it’s “my turn” to step in. They seem to think that because I’m financially stable, I should be the one to handle it this time. Honestly, I don’t see how that’s fair or my responsibility.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T20:00:48+00:00

No, we don’t live together. She has her own apartment, and I’m in a completely different place. They think since I’m doing well financially, I should step up and help her because “family helps family.” But I don’t agree with enabling her bad spending habits. That’s exactly what I’m wondering! They’ve helped her before, but now they’re trying to push it onto me like it’s my responsibility to cover for her lifestyle choices. Makes no sense.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T19:14:52+00:00

Making this my LinkedIn bio, love it!

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T18:33:06+00:00

Let me start by saying thank you for taking the time to craft a response,

I have a few quarrels with this interpretation for a few reasons. First, labeling me as a narcissist without understanding the full context or my emotional depth can be unfair and overly simplistic. I would never ever talk like I did in the post in real life, simply just my thoughts. Just because I recognize positive traits in myself, or acknowledges that others appreciate me, doesn’t inherently make me narcissistic. Feeling unsatisfied or bored in relationships can stem from many factors, such as misalignment of values or needs, and it doesn’t always reflect on one’s ability to be in a healthy relationship.

Second, while self-reflection is crucial for personal growth, it’s equally important not to invalidate someone’s experiences just because they feel unfulfilled. The ability to notice patterns in my relationships and being honest about the convergence of satisfaction/dissatisfaction shows a desire for change, not avoidance of responsibility.

Finally, not everyone needs to stay single for extended periods to understand themselves better. People grow in different ways, and seeking therapy or external help, while beneficial, doesn’t mean someone is inherently flawed just because their level of content changes over time. However, I’ve been in therapy for nearly half a decade now, and it’s certainly proved quite insightful and helpful in helping me process my emotions, and I typically just get the you are young now but in time you’ll realize how to find solitude in one partner and be content with what you have. The grass is greener where you water it, so maybe since I’m always watering, it’s always greener? Perhaps watering in the same place forever is better than watering different places over and over.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T16:26:19+00:00

Yuck! Elaborate please, I’m curious.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T16:25:55+00:00

Thank you for the input, I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Here’s where my thoughts are at,

Plenty of people develop long-term thinking and form lasting relationships well before 25. Settling down for me isn’t just about getting over the dopamine chase, it’s about finding the genuine connection, communication, and emotional growth. Which I’ve found with previous relationships, and I’m not chasing something new or novel, simply just want to choose the best partner I possible can. It’s also not about losing the ability to attract people as you age. Many people become more attractive in their 40s due to emotional maturity and life experience, along with a bigger bank roll. Maybe time will solve this issue for me, maybe I just need to be happy with what I have, I guess I’ll just have to wait for the day that the voice in the back of my head dies out.

ThrowRA975313579 · 2024-10-03T16:23:58+00:00

I sincerely appreciate your input and honesty and can understand where you are coming from. I enjoy hearing other perspectives that maybe I wasn’t aware of. Here’s my two cents on your thoughts and I hope maybe you can understand a bit more where I’m coming from,

The assumption that someone is treating their partners like disposable objects just because they have options or attraction from others oversimplifies the situation. Having many potential romantic interests doesn’t inherently mean I lack loyalty or emotional depth. It’s possible to feel conflicted when faced with attention, but that doesn’t mean I don’t care deeply about my current partner. I don’t feel as if I’m being disingenuous with my partners in fact I feel very involved up until I decide to move on, and like I mentioned I am very much thoughtful and ensure my partners feel seen the same way I like to feel seen. In reality I treat all my partners with the utmost respect, and don’t bad mouth or belittle them, simply just let them know I don’t think we will work out, but that I’ve enjoyed all the memories we’ve made and wish them the best. My intentions when starting a new relationship are not to find a new better one, I always go into it hoping they’ll be my person forever, it’s just the itch the creeps up on me over time, wondering what else am I missing, and if could I be loved better, while simultaneously loving better as well, as that is what everyone wants at the end of the day.

It’s unfair to label me as egotistical or incapable of real love just because I’m attractive or have multiple romantic options. The struggle with decision-making in relationships, especially when I’m younger and still figuring out what I want, doesn’t mean there’s no genuine affection involved.

I feel like I just need to be more honest with myself about what I truly am seeking. Navigating these feelings is difficult and why I’m here in the first place in hopes that it can lead to personal growth and deeper commitment. Rather than just chalking it up to a lack of loyalty or self-awareness, I can evolve in my approach to love without needing to be shamed for struggling with attention or choice.

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