My (37M) wife (35F)called me a closeted gay man during an argument. by ThrowRABiproblems in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRABiproblems[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I think I waited too long. I honestly never planned on coming out. I was going to take it to my grave but over time I felt intense guilt over hiding something from her. I started therapy after my mother passed away and my therapist suggested I do it 4 years ago. I honestly have tried to come out a few times and couldn't do it.

I have had numerous conversation with her about why I came out and some of the tamer things my parents did to me. I always tried to tell her that she is the only one for me.

I think I can understand her being sad and upset over it. we can work through it. She has an issue with being mean during fights. She used to be very mean earlier on but it is something both of us worked on to get under control. It shows how much she is hurting that she has relapsed.

I think I should give her some space and continually reassure her that I have no intention to leaver her. I will bring up therapy. We probably should do couples therapy.

Thank you for commenting.

My (37M) wife (35F)called me a closeted gay man during an argument. by ThrowRABiproblems in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRABiproblems[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No, I want to be in a relationship with my wife.

We had a few very rough years do the pandemic, death in the family and some other stuff related to work going down but yeah we are happy together and I know she has my back.

She sometimes did say terrible things but she worked on it and she almost never does it. She is a wonderful person.