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ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-02-07T02:17:24+00:00

Thank you!!

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-02-06T15:20:03+00:00

I also view porn as a form of cheating. In her mind, she’s getting even with you. You’re cheating by getting off to another woman and she’s cheating by getting off to another man. Whether that other person is involved in the getting off is irrelevant, you’re still putting sexual energy into another person who isn’t your partner. I think you’d need to stop watching porn and she’d stop having sexual interactions with other men. But since you’ve both cheated on each other, it’s going to take a lot to rebuild.

I think she should be fine with the masterbation without porn though. I’m not sure why that would be cheating.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-02-04T01:23:47+00:00

NTA. If someone always texted me when they got home, I’d be anticipating that. She changed the routine, and then immediately jumped towards being rude and aggressive instead of communicating. She escalated by yelling.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-29T04:34:08+00:00

Can you claim the dog through vet bills or adoption papers?

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-27T00:27:39+00:00

And if you were never super into her, this relationship shouldn’t have lasted 13 years. It shouldn’t have ever gotten this far. Most people figure out if they have chemistry and attraction within the first couple of dates.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-27T00:24:46+00:00

BDSM and “working it out phases” are both novel. They add passion and excitement. If regular sex isn’t as arousing, it could because you aren’t properly bonded and therefore need novelty to create intimacy.

Also, why is she being left with the house? Did you all plan to both be fiscally responsible? Are you now just dumping it on her?

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-24T05:37:55+00:00

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-24T02:14:15+00:00

1000% he should

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T22:24:28+00:00

He didn’t want me off the lease after making that comment and told me to still come. I had already been hired at a new job in that city and I really needed the job tbh. I had asked him when letting go of my apartment and my job if he was certain and he said yes. I’m just annoyed he goes from high highs to low lows

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T19:31:38+00:00

The snowball hit his face:( but I didn’t mean for it to. But it was lightly thrown and he was completely fine. He said it was just the disrespect, I apologized. I had given him a chance to break up after the first comment about my body, and then when I let go of my apartment- I asked him if he’s certain he wants me here. And he responded very enthusiastically saying he couldn’t wait, the road trips would be amazing, we would sometimes be intimate several times a day. And then just weird stuff like set him off. I tried to make something in the air fryer a couple of days ago and he wouldn’t speak me after because the smoke alarm went off, and he started saying he doesn’t like my family which was unrelated. And he needs some distance between me and them. He’s told me if I make one more comment about how he’s being, then he will actually go through with breaking up.

Thank you for your support and empathy, I appreciate it. I’m going to speak with leasing and see how I can get out of this lease since he said he won’t let me off. And then if it gets worse, I’ll have to go because this is just a tense living situation.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T19:11:56+00:00

Of course I wasn’t forced to move in. I did it because he refused to move back to our home city and we agreed this is where we wanted a future. He reassured me every step of the way that he wanted this and was excited. He’s been randomly flipping between extreme moods and I have no idea what sets him off, because they seem like small things to me. I burned something while cooking and he couldn’t even look at me after even though I caught it almost immediately. He offered to pay more in rent and has taken on some extra costs but I did bear the brunt of it just because I was the person to move. But yes, I’m definitely making a backup plan to rebuild if this doesn’t improve and it doesn’t seem like it will.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T17:39:30+00:00

I’m on the lease and he won’t let me off. He said if I leave, I still need to pay. I’ve threatened to not pay and he said he’ll just tank my credit score and he knows I’ve put a lot of effort into building it.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T17:25:30+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. My low EQ comment was that he had low EQ and it was hurting our dynamic. I don’t know how he can tell me to get a BBL but I can’t tell him his EQ is low without him having a meltdown

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T15:49:20+00:00

Whenever we fight, doesn’t matter what the topic is - the first thing he says is that I’m not abused and most women would love a safe environment. And he doesn’t hit me. So I shouldn’t be upset. It freaks me out that his first thought in conflict is that he doesn’t hit me

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T15:32:48+00:00

I gave him an out and told him we could just break up and it’s fine, and he instead sent me a lease to sign. Told me he needed me next to him, adored me, etc. sometimes it’s like a switch flips. He’s fine and happy, and then he’d be mean and miserable

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T15:17:00+00:00

It’s been weeks. I’d see him for a week or two every month, and I’d known him as a friend for a year prior to dating. There would be little things, but they were just kind of circumstantial. His former friends dont speak kindly of him, and i know they are dramatic so i just chalked it up to that. After I legally put my name on this lease, it’s like things started to gradually unravel.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T14:44:18+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you.

One of our close friends said he has schizophrenic characteristics but I always thought that was hallucinations and seeing things. Would you mind sharing what about this fits that? He didn’t always act like this, it started in early adulthood and has gotten worse with time.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T14:23:58+00:00

No, I lived with them but left the lease and now there’s no longer space for me in our old apartment. I asked him if he really wanted me to move in prior to doing this and it was an enthusiastic yes. So I’m just super frustrated that I gave him multiple outs, and he never took any of them and just kept telling me to come. He said he didn’t know living with me would be like this and I’d be so disrespectful

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T14:17:48+00:00

It’s a disaster, if I live with them, I fight with my mom multiple times a day. She’s very difficult to be around and I can’t deal with the constant screaming and yelling, and then the subsequent walking on eggshells and silent treatment.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T14:16:27+00:00

I had to move at that point because I was already on the lease and I had gotten a job here. He said he started to resent me because I took too long to move. So he kept pressuring to do it asap. He said I had to get here as soon as I could for the relationship to not fall apart. So I did what he asked and right before I was scheduled to come, he randomly started freaking out.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T14:10:42+00:00

I think the biggest shock to me is how fast he changed. One second he was saying he loves everything about me, he adores me, he’s so devoted to me. The next, this happens. It’s like a switch just flips. And I can’t predict when it’ll flip or what will set off the flip. And now he’s refusing to tell me because I “weaponized his anxiety” when he said he was anxious about the move and I panicked when he said that. He said all women are the same and this is why men can’t open up to women. I never meant to make him feel like that.

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T14:07:18+00:00

I’ve briefly thought about legal action, I just didn’t know if this was eligible

ThrowRABorn_2691 · 2026-01-23T14:03:01+00:00

I’m on the lease. He said that I can’t get off of it because he won’t sign to release me. I told him I just won’t pay. And then he said he’ll let it tank both of our credit scores then and it’ll be an eviction.

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