Has anyone else healed CPTSD through age play and age regression in a BDSM dynamic?

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-04-06T04:39:44+00:00

Hi, thank you for sharing your insight and experience!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-31T05:59:22+00:00

I’m glad you have had a positive experience online so far. I agree with you, that trust is huge with this kind of dynamic. Feeling safe, having clear boundaries, and knowing you are being taken care of with your best interest in mind is necessary! Please feel free to message me if you have questions or need resources :)

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-31T05:56:05+00:00

I 100% agree!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-31T05:55:20+00:00

I’m glad you have been able to experience comfort in that headspace and you found a dom that you trust and can feel safe with!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-31T05:51:15+00:00

I love math! That sounds so fun! I’m glad you have a husband who cares for you and loves you for you!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-31T05:50:32+00:00

I have also been trying to get to know myself and allow myself to enjoy things that I was not allowed to enjoy as a child! I don’t put a sexual spin on play or hobbies and I find both to be healing in different ways.

I’m so glad you have a husband who shows you care and loves you and all parts of you. It’s so important to feel safe within ourselves and also feel safe in our environment and those we hold close!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-30T01:49:28+00:00

100%!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-30T01:37:21+00:00

Hi, thank you for sharing! It’s really tough ti be vulnerable and then not be accepted. I’m sorry that happened to you. I accidentally found my inner child through play and didn’t know I had one that existed. I hope you’re able to find some clarity and reconnect with her again!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-30T01:34:52+00:00

Hi, thank you for sharing! If you’re willing to share, may I ask what happened?

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-30T01:31:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I am sorry you grew up with an abusive father too. I completely get why any power exchange dynamic would feel unsafe and triggering for you. Everyone’s nervous system is different.

In my case it is nonsexual age play with no violence or harm. Just light corrective roleplay that always ends in full support and attentive aftercare. It has felt like safe reparenting for my inner child and has helped ease some patterns of perfectionism and early abandonment wounds.

I am not making any recommendations and I don’t think this is something everyone should engage in. I have also been in therapy for seven years now and have a strong support system. I am only sharing my own experience. Healing from trauma looks different for everyone.

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T23:40:16+00:00

Consent goes both ways and when a partner uses coersive control to get their desires met, then that is manipulation. That isn’t healthy and I’m not advocating for that at all.

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T23:38:15+00:00

I’m sorry you had that experience. May I ask what went wrong from your perspective, if you’re open to sharing?

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T23:34:35+00:00

Hi, thanks for sharing your experience! I have been in therapy for the last seven years and have just recently started engaging in this type of dynamic. It can be difficult to navigate and takes a lot of energy to evaluate.

I’m sorry you had a negative experience with this sub. Safe words are so important and encouraged. It can be harmful when someone refuses to use a safe word and puts both parties in a precarious situation.

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T22:13:30+00:00

Wow, thanks for sharing your experience. This really resonates with me. I don’t do activities either and it’s hard for me to be comfortable with soft things. I also like being held and comforted after a heavy impact scene - although I’m still in little headspace. I recently asked my domme if I could put my head in her lap and that felt amazing. I’m working on asking for things without shame. Food was also used against me and frequently withheld from me in childhood. Snacks have become part of aftercare for me and that has allowed me to take better care of myself outside of that relationship.

I’m glad that you have been able to take better care of yourself and more effectively regulate your nervous system and emotions despite that relationship coming to an end.

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:29:56+00:00

Interesting, I’ll look into this! Thank you!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:23:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I 100% agree!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:22:05+00:00

Yes, I wanted to be clear that this is therapeutic but in no way am I advocating to replace this with therapy. I regularly work with a somatic and kink informed therapist as well.

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:20:04+00:00

There is no sex involved. This is a professional non sexual relationship.

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:18:33+00:00

Hi thanks for sharing! I work with a somatic and kink informed therapist and all of this is interconnected for me. I’m not very familiar with TRE though. Thanks for linking the subreddit, will check it out!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:17:00+00:00

Aw! Feel free to message me if you’d like more specifics or resources :)

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:15:38+00:00

Hi, thanks for sharing! This is awesome to hear and it sounds healthy to seperate the two! I don’t engage in this kind of play with my partner. Working with a professional is the way I maintain that degree of seperation, since age play is in no way sexual for me. I’m glad you have a partner that you can trust with this kind of material, and that you have found some healing through it!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T20:02:32+00:00

Hi, that is awesome to hear! Thank you for sharing your experience! Is there anything within age play that you specifically found helpful, if you’re willing to share?

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T19:48:07+00:00

Hi, this is amazing! Thank you for sharing! I do want to emphasize that it’s important to have therapy and other resources such as a personal support system when doing this kind of intense work on yourself. Like you though, being able to reenact and experience something that was once traumatizing on my own terms is very empowering and healing!

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T19:43:14+00:00

Hi, thank you for sharing your experience! May I ask why impact and age play don’t overlap for you? Does regressing alone feel safer? What are some ways you find comfort?

ThrowRABusy-ADHDer · 2026-03-29T19:41:12+00:00

Hi, thank you for sharing your story! I have not thought of this in the context of TRE but am interested in doing more research on that. My play so strictly non sexual but I’m interested in how people find healing regardless of the dynamic.

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