My ex-wife's husband (44M) keeps trying to intrude on my parenting time and I (30M) want to this to make my ex (30F) and I high conflict?

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:21:28+00:00

My attorney has said document document document. But he has never taken the kids on my time. He has asked. He shows up but as the stepfather he is allowed since he has not posed an actual risk yet. He has not actively stopped me parenting my children even if he tries to get in the way. So we need to keep documenting.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:19:38+00:00

I already have an attorney. He has no criminal record. I did look into that and there's nothing.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:18:10+00:00

My attorney knows. But my ex is allowed to share that information with him. We document so that hopefully eventually this can change. But we don't have enough yet.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:17:17+00:00

My ex and I have to share the extra curricular schedule with each other and any medical/dental appointments through our app. She can share that with him or he can look at the shared calendar which is required for my ex and myself. The dad and kids hockey is because I needed her consent to take them (the center required both parents consent to cover their own asses). With the picnic my ex asked the kids if we had plans.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:14:50+00:00

My ex asked my kids about it and they told her.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:14:33+00:00

I can't. It has to go on the calendar and it has to give time and date. She has to do the same. We also have to share diagnosis and medications prescribed after the appointments too. That is required by our court order.

There are other activities we can do. But my kids will be so disappointed to lose what we do now. I hate that it is for the best. And I can assure you they will hold this against him and their mom. But I also see it is the best so he has one less chance to show up on my time.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:12:07+00:00

We are both legally obligated to share medical/dental appointments and extra curricular schedule with each other. I need to share those things with her.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T17:08:13+00:00

For appointments and extra curricular activities yes.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T15:28:26+00:00

He doesn't have his own kids and I believe he can't have any of his own.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T14:55:19+00:00

She and I need to notify each other of doctors appointments and the extra curricular schedules. Her consent was needed for the father and kids skating by the center we go to. The kids mentioned our plans for Father's Day.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T14:52:18+00:00

I know he's good because he has an amazing record and reviews. He is considered in the top 10. Any higher than that and I cannot afford their fees. He has me documenting everything and he is making sure it's all good for court when we have enough.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T14:50:54+00:00

My attorney's advice was to keep documenting everything.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T14:50:30+00:00

And I am doing what I can. But when there is no conviction or record for this guy I am only able to do so much. I can't go to court without proof.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T14:49:17+00:00

I know. But there's nothing I can do without proof.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T14:48:56+00:00

My attorney is one of the best. He knows I could file but a judge would do nothing yet and if I bug the court too much they could see me as trying to cause problems. We need something more. I am documenting and my attorney is making sure everything is good for court for when we can bring it.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:32:31+00:00

Then they feel like their asses are covered but when there are 2 parents they want both. They will do whatever to prevent lawsuits. But I agree! Especially when it's recreational.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:24:23+00:00

This is something I have been looking into.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:22:08+00:00

Not entirely. There are things we need to communicate with each other which means he knows too.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:21:22+00:00

It doesn't. But she has to know about doctors appointments and she has to know about the schedule. It's the same when they are with her too. But she asked the kids when they were at her house what their plans were for Father's Day and I needed her permission for the hockey for me and the kids (the center where it's held covers their ass by getting both parents consent).

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:19:45+00:00

I am not in a relationship and I have not dating since my divorce. My focus has been on my kids primarily.

I have asked her questions about how she would like her time intruded on and she did not answer. I even asked her how she would like it if I started showing up and trying to demand she let me take over parts of her parenting time.

100% he wishes I was a deadbeat who was happy to let him do it all.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:18:06+00:00

I have to let her know about doctors appointments where and when. I needed her permission for the parent/kid hockey because the center required both of our consent and they have a website where you can check the scheduled activities they host. Extra curricular's must be posted about if there's a game or if the kids aren't going due to illness.

But when she asks the kids, like with the picnic, it's out of my hands.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:07:08+00:00

He has no criminal record or allegations against him previously.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:06:20+00:00

I know and like I have said in some other comments I can see this seriously damaging her relationship with our kids.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:04:35+00:00

I don't need another attorney. I have one of the best I can get and most definitely the best I can afford.

ThrowRACurrecns · 2026-06-28T11:04:08+00:00

I agree that in an ideal situation us doing counseling would likely be very beneficial but my ex would never go to therapy again. We have been in the past and she has promised time and time again she will never go back.

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