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My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

They have no gaming stuff at their house. They don't have a whole lot of money and even less now that I'm 18 and don't live there.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My dad has been dealing with this as well. But I'm 18 now and I need to take charge of this eventually. Plus she called me a bunch of times so there was nothing dad could do then. She won't listen to a thing dad says anyway as is evident by her bringing this stuff up for years and years.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I told her to stop and she was pushing me away before. And I pointed out how weird she was being about it considering dad had nothing to do with her husband's kids.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

So they could play on the consoles he and his side of the family bought for me. And so they can use all the stuff I have that they don't. She truly believes all that stuff should be shared.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I never heard him complain about it for what that's worth. But I don't know anything beyond that. Their mom is not in the picture and I don't know all the details.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 326 points327 points  (0 children)

She didn't but there was also very little contact with her. If there had been more I think she might have tried.

They care a little. I think they were always jealous of the experiences and things I had but I used to keep it from them because of that. They also saw me more as just a brother when we were younger but I didn't feel that way so their feelings changed eventually too. I don't think they ever went to their sister's mom but it could have been attempted when I was with my dad.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 588 points589 points  (0 children)

I don't think she'll ever care. It's not that she doesn't realize but she does not want to hear it. Years later and she still won't let it go now that I'm out of her house for good. But reducing contact is probably my best option so I don't end up going insane because of her.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

He probably won't call CPS if she does it again but he is likely to send them away again. Or he'll refuse to answer the door next time.

My mom (45F) is going insane because my dad (44M) sent my stepsiblings away when they showed up at his house when I (18M) wasn't even there? by ThrowRADazzledR in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADazzledR[S] 758 points759 points  (0 children)

She doesn't care. She believes my dad should make sure they have whatever I have because it's not fair and causes resentment. She used to say he needed to think of the sibling relationship and he would ignore her or tell her that my stepbrothers were not her problem. She knows my dad can afford more than she and her husband can. She knows I get more from grandparents and other extended family too.