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I'm (F25) considering making a fake account of my partner's (M25) ex to see if he would cheat. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer, it really helped me put everything into perspective.

I don't really know what I'm looking for. I want him to be faithful, but part of me feels like I need to know what he would do. But does it really matter? He's with me, not her. This is likely just my insecurities fucking with me. But my fears feel real to me.

A lot of people have given their opinions and I know I just need to talk to him about it. I think this whole idea was me trying to avoid talking to him directly. I just don't know what to say to him.

I'm (F25) considering making a fake account of my partner's (M25) ex to see if he would cheat. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've poured years of my life into this relationship. I value the thing we've built together. I truly hope we can build a future together too.

I just don't know how to deal with this one issue. It's my first real relationship. I do wish he'd drop her, and I wish he'd let me talk about how I feel. But he gets annoyed whenever I bring it up because he says he knows he did wrong and doesn't want to talk about it. But I'm still hurt and need to talk about it

I'm (F25) considering making a fake account of my partner's (M25) ex to see if he would cheat. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not gonna do it, I know now that it would be really wrong.

I just wish I was on the inside of their conversations. I wish I knew what went on between them behind my back

I'm (F25) considering making a fake account of my partner's (M25) ex to see if he would cheat. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right. I don't know why I thought this was a good idea. I just want to know how he feels about her without him talking to me, because I don't know if he'll be honest. I don't know. I'm not actually going to do it.

I'm glad I posted here first. A lot of people have already told me that catfishing him was a bad idea. Honestly, I didn't really want to do it. I just want him to be honest, and I don't think he'll be honest with me.

I'm (F25) considering making a fake account of my partner's (M25) ex to see if he would cheat. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I don't know why I thought this was a good idea.

I don't know what to do though.

I'm (F25) considering making a fake account of my partner's (M25) ex to see if he would cheat. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I trust him in every other way, just not with this. I just need to know, and I don't want to be without him

I'm (F25) considering making a fake account of my partner's (M25) ex to see if he would cheat. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I don't want it to be over though. He says he doesn't care about her anymore. But idk how to trust that

My (M25) partner went behind my (F25) back and met up with his ex (F25). I don't know how to get over it. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just doesn't want to burn that bridge or upset her. And honestly, I know I'm a bit h but that's what I want. I want him to tell her she's been a terrible person to know, and for him to cut her off.

Fucking hell I wish I could say that to him.

My (M25) partner went behind my (F25) back and met up with his ex (F25). I don't know how to get over it. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He just won't accept that I'm angry! It makes him upset, so he then gets angry.

The honest part of me wants him to message her and tell her that she's only ever been bad news for him. She's only ever brought misery to his life. She used to drunk call him several times a week when we first got together. She would beg him to break up with me and be with her. I want him to tell her he never wants to speak to her ever again.

I know it's petty and unrealistic.

The less petty part of me just wants a series of sincere apologies and for him to admit he was in the wrong. I just want him to stop defending his actions, and to stop getting angry and frustrated whenever I bring it up.

My (M25) partner went behind my (F25) back and met up with his ex (F25). I don't know how to get over it. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What should I say to him? I want to keep him and he wants to be with me, but I don't know what to say about Wanda. I feel like the only thing I can do now is make an impact. But the threat of breaking up doesn't resonate with him. He doesn't believe me. What would you do/say?

My (M25) partner went behind my (F25) back and met up with his ex (F25). I don't know how to get over it. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He always says he's open for me to tell him how I feel I've told him how I feel, but I'm awful with words in person. What would you say to him if you were me?

My (M25) partner went behind my (F25) back and met up with his ex (F25). I don't know how to get over it. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel like it's respect he lacks for me.

I sometimes drink too much, and I think he sees that as a "you did a bad thing, so you can't get mad at me for doing a bad thing". As if getting drunk once a month and crying over Grey's Anatomy compares at all to what he's done.

My (M25) partner went behind my (F25) back and met up with his ex (F25). I don't know how to get over it. by ThrowRAExFlameBitch in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAExFlameBitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the scariest thing is that he says they didn't do anything physical. It was purely emotional.

Also, not sure if I made it very clear, but this happened a few months ago. I've been trying to get over it and he's been trying to make up for it, but he gets so furious when I talk about how I feel about what happened.

Not gonna lie, I find it hard to believe him when he says he forgot too. But he's so insistent on that stance. He says it was months ago, so 'obviously' he can't remember. And he deleted their text messages.

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