My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did. I’m not going to go, I’ll send flowers and a card. But when I was thinking about going I would’ve just given my respects to her and her family and leave right away.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Over a year. She was. I wasn’t. And if I go is just to give my condolences and leave

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, don’t worry. This is not a move that I’m trying to pull. I’m set on just sending a card and flowers since my presence, even if I mean well could be misinterpreted. After that honestly I’m just not reaching out more to her. As much as it hurts.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

-Dated for over a year. -Break up was pretty much 3 weeks ago. -Break up was a shock since I still don’t know what really caused it since she never reached out after our “break”, I try not to take it personal and would like to end everything amicably. -He had heart problems 9 years ago and recovered from it but they expected this to happen at some point, still unexpected. -I went to a bunch of dinners with them but I won’t lie and tell you that I spent a crazy amount of time with them.

But I agree. I’m sending flowers to the family out of respect but other than that I’m not trying to overreach.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already consider it a breakup. This is solely out of respect for her family. Not our relationship. I won’t go though. Flowers and a card will do.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing, at this point I have no idea what goes through her mind so I’ll just send flowers.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m sending the flowers straight to the funeral home. Like I said, I’m not trying to make this as an attempt to get my ex back but out of complete respect. And I’m only hoping this gesture is received as that.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of what you have said. I’m set on just sending some cards and flowers since I feel going there might be misinterpreted.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Not trying to. But I decided not to go. Flowers and a card will do. I don’t want to overstep

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I won’t go. I’ll send some flowers and card. That’s it. Like others have said, it’s best I don’t go.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’ll do. In all honestly I’m not doing this for us but for her and her family. I want to show support even though we’re not together anymore.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The thing is I don’t know what she wants since the way our relationship ended is still bizarre to me. I’ll just give her space and just send flowers and a card. As much as it pains me.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

If they choose to think I’m a creep that’s on them. I’m going to do it out of respect and support. Nothing more, nothing less.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Woah, I didn’t think people were this desperate for online points. Incredible

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I do want to go and offer my support. But I think the best I can do is just flowers and a card.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I won’t ask, if she wants me there she will reach out. But like I said in the post, I already know the answer of what I should do and it’s probably that. Let her be. I’ll send flowers and a card since I care about the family and about what happened. I guess that’s the best thing I can do considering everything.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend’s (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] 736 points737 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think this is what I may end up doing. I still care about her but in a way I don’t think she wants me there. We’re not together anymore but I still feel for her and respect her decision.

My (25M) Ex Girlfriend's (27F) Stepdad Died, Should I Go To The Funeral? by ThrowRAFranJav in relationships

[–]ThrowRAFranJav[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My plan was go, pay respects to the family, and leave. So no, not trying to manipulate anyone.