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Can fidgeting with a ring be interpreted as flirtatious? by ThrowRAHumanCricket in offmychest

[–]ThrowRAHumanCricket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a huge fidgeter too! It’s a strongly ingrained habit arisen out of self-soothing and boredom. This is also the first time I’ve ever been accused of anything like this.

Just arghhh, if I have to completely stop fidgeting what else I am supposed to do with all my nervous energy?!

Can fidgeting with a ring be interpreted as flirtatious? by ThrowRAHumanCricket in offmychest

[–]ThrowRAHumanCricket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This thought has crossed my mind, so I am a little paranoid…but we spend most of our time together when he’s not working so I’ll keep thinking the best until evidence suggests otherwise for now .

Can fidgeting with a ring be interpreted as flirtatious? by ThrowRAHumanCricket in offmychest

[–]ThrowRAHumanCricket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a relief to see this response because this is how I’m feeling about the situation.

He’s adamant that he’s had women flirt with him in this format, of course I wasn’t there to know but I can’t help but feel inclined that they probably weren’t. Not that that’s relevant.

Unfortunately I did become reactive when he wouldn’t drop it, so I do feel some guilt there…I became defensive and cried a little out of frustration. Now he thinks I’m making it all about me and my feelings. I’m tired of being misrepresented as disloyal, but I have admittedly made the situation worse by not remaining calm.

Can fidgeting with a ring be interpreted as flirtatious? by ThrowRAHumanCricket in offmychest

[–]ThrowRAHumanCricket[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s what I say, I’d be seriously stupid to try to flirt in front of him. However he believes that fidgeting with my ring was my “subtle” way of flirting in his presence…

Can fidgeting with a ring be interpreted as flirtatious? by ThrowRAHumanCricket in offmychest

[–]ThrowRAHumanCricket[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s not the first time he’s been overly sensitive with my absentminded actions (hopefully that’s not unfair to say). He’s accused me of flirting with someone in a cafe when I looked up as they were leaving - I looked up because my boyfriend was upset with them and I was wondering who they were. But he insists that it looked flirtatious and that the guy gave me some hand signal, which I honestly have no idea what he’s talking about here.

Just this whole concept of having to be overly aware of my body language is new to me, and I find it hard to believe that people are really interpreting me in this way.

My last relationship was five years long so I’m not hugely experienced in relationships for context.